What is shallowing? – Bondara Sex Toy Blog

It doesn’t have to be deep. Sex isn’t just about pounding your partner, shallowness is an underrated technique that’s subtle but satisfying.

So read on as we take a less in-depth look at this often overlooked erogenous zone

what exactly yes shallow?

As you can probably tell from the name, Shallow is a penetration technique—whether with a finger, penis, tongue, or sex toy—that focuses on the vaginal opening and the first few centimeters inside.

When you’re “in” but not quite there yet, it’s incredibly stimulating, both physically and mentally, which builds anticipation for a super intense sexual experience. It’s intimate and can involve other types of play, so it’s ideal for couples who find it difficult to climax together or only through vaginal penetration.

Why bother?

Did you know that most of the clitoris is internal? What you see (and play), glans clitorisjust a hint. Not only are 90% of the vagina’s nerve endings located at its opening, but the clitoral arms also surround that opening, making the area extremely sensitive to stroking and light touch.

A study on female sexual pleasure found that 83% of women orgasmed more frequently or experienced increased pleasure when using shallow pads during sex or masturbation. But that’s not all! According to the Mayo Clinic, less than one in five women can orgasm from penetration alone, but practicing shallowness can “teach” your body to orgasm more easily from penetrative sex.

While the anus doesn’t have the same amount, it’s also sensitive around its entrance, so you don’t have to have a vagina to try going shallow. As we said before, delayed gratification and edge potential are well worth exploring.

Where do I start shallowing this out?

As with most new techniques, we recommend starting with your fingers (alone or otherwise) before moving on to sex toys or a partner. The key is to take your time and enjoy it as an act of self-exploration.

Masturbation

Start by rubbing your fingertips against the opening of your vagina or anus. You can use one finger to trace circles around the edges or lips, or trace the edges using two fingertips moving parallel to the sides.

When you’ve had enough teasing, you can dip your fingers inside and massage the first few centimeters of your vagina or rectum. Similar to G-spot stimulation, but without the depth.

Always using lube will make the experience much better.

Toys, toys, toys.

Using your favorite dildo or vibrator while touching your body will provide both pleasure and a fuller feeling. The short shaft of the Treble Cleft is perfect and the rolling arms have strong vibrations that fit snugly against your clitoris or perineum. However, something small like our dab is better for teasing since you can only “dip” the tip inside.

You can also combine lightening with nipple stimulation for enhanced results. Whether you prefer the pinching power of a clamp or the gentle suction of a clitoral stimulator, you don’t have to limit yourself to dildo toys. The Womanizer OG shines here. Not only does it have suction that can be used on the clitoris or nipples, but its stimulator head is insertable.

Go shallow with your partner

Focus less on thrust and more on pelvic alignment (Intercourse Alignment Technique). Also, keep your chest parallel to your shoulders and hips close together. Combine this with clitoral stimulation for a full range of sensations.

Shallow isn’t just a warm-up, it also allows the receiver to rest from deep penetration – especially if their partner has a big penis. Mix things up too; Shallow works great for slow doggy style, or spoon feeding on a lazy Sunday morning.

It’s that simple! You may be doing this without even knowing it. What shallow experiences have you had? Any advice you can share? We’d love to hear it all in the comments below!

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