What is “real gender” and why? – Girls’ Juice

“What is sex?”

I’ve been a gender nerd for decades, having delved into the sexual subculture of books and podcasts, and my friends’ philosophy of sexuality for countless hours – and it’s a question I’ve returned to again and again. Like a Koan, the more I want to get.

I think this definition seems clearer to me before my current relationship. Seven years of long distances tell me that activities like phone sex and sex can definitely be like sex and can be like intimacy, conclusion, excitement, awakening and orgasm. Sometimes I have phone sex with my partner on the same day, have personal sex with others (I can say, I was booked for “n” busy), and sometimes phone sex is more like “real sex” to me than IRL sex – because I’m more relaxed in a moment, or more easily staying in my partner or closer to my partner or all of my partners, or closer to my partner. These traits are not inherent EveryoneDefinitions of sex, but they certainly make sex more attractive and thus more “real”.

to this end, a lot of If you choose to see them this way, it may be gender. For example, a study of more than 10,000 cam-show audiences found that 19% of them viewed the encounters of these cam encounters as “real gender.” I want to know how many webcams I read this time Performers Think of their show as “real sex”. Of course, Bongacams.com and other such sites are doing Sex work – It can be defined as exchange labor for the exchange of money, goods or services – but I think the opinions of performers vary greatly in this regard, and the opinions of my own cam work mostly feel like Workdon’t like sex.

The community of sex asexuals has taught me a lot about the definition of sex too – mainly, it may not be as important as I thought it was. We value sex as a society so much that it is easy to forget how interesting it is (even Hot) It is possible to connect with people including lovers/partners through non-sexual (or indirect) activities. From bathing together, hiking together, reading poetry each other, to feeding each other, to mud, wrestling, hypnosis, meditating quietly in the same room together… all of this can be done through Someonethat doesn’t matter!

so what yes gender? I think ultimately, the answer depends on who you are talking to, and your definition may need to develop throughout your life (or throughout the day!) to fit in the different spaces you find yourself in. When I told the doctor that I had sex with someone, I mean that I might be exchanging body fluids. When I told my straight friend that I had sex with someone, I might mean some clothes were off and someone’s genitals were irritated. When I told me Queer I have sex with someone friends, and I might also mean we did something about hump or spanking. When my wife says to me, “I love fuck you last night” or “You fuck me so well last night,” and IRL gender in her definition – strong and connective kink scenes are likely to itch too.

So when you find yourself wondering if a particular experience “counts” for sex, first ask yourself why it matters – and then ask yourself how to make you yours Feel. Gender may be more than just “insert tab A into slot B”, I find that my sexual life, as well as my life in general, feels more energetic when I expand my definition of sex, pleasure, connection, and joy.

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