Wedding gift pressure? Experts reveal surprising guests

If your biggest question during this wedding season is “How many gifts do I need?” – Take a deep breath, cancel your credit card and listen.

Jennifer Spector, brand director of wedding company Zola, said the average wedding gift in the United States is about $100.

But before you throw a crisp Benjamin on the card and head to the open bar, Spector gives some instructions for guests who want to nail the perfect gift without boasting about their budget or dignity.

First, forget about the ancient etiquette “rules” that your gift should match the cost of the meal plate.

The Emily Post Institute believes that those small social pressure blocks are nothing more than “modern myths.”

So no, you don’t owe the couple $275 for stand mixers not only because they offer filet mignon.

That is, the relationship status is indeed important – no, not your Relationship state, they are you.

Your gift should match your relationship: cycling or DIE big, office acquaintances go to budget, Spector sits in a parade for a recent interview.

And, if you’ve already split up on a big money, a hotel and a three-round matched bachelor t-shirt? Relieve your slackness.

“If you are going to be at a wedding or spend a lot of time on events before the wedding, you can spend less money, but I always recommend giving gifts,” Spector told The Outlet.

“It’s more about what you give than how much you spend.”

Translation: Thoughts are important, but not worth zero dollars.

Time is also important. Don’t that guest drag the packaged blender into the reception desk – unless your goal is to be a dance floor hazard.

“Unless you give a check, I encourage you not to bring gifts to your wedding,” she said, adding that the gifts should land before the big day or no later than three months (so newlyweds can actually use these things in their real married life).

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“If they like to host dinners, a cheese board or decanter is a great gift.” Spector continued.

“Gift cards, such as tickets to a show or a registered store, are another great option. Remember that couples may receive a lot of gifts, so don’t choose anything that is too bulky or difficult to exchange.”

As the post previously reported, more and more couples are not only watching toasters and towels, but also working for the house.

Zola said nearly 87% of couples now add cash funds to their registry, and more than a third put it into practice. With the high housing costs, this is a truly rewarding wedding gift.

According to a survey by lenders, nearly half of couples recently asked for help with down payments rather than traditional gifts, while 26% said it helped them put more money into their homes. In this economy, cash is the new China.

Ultimately, don’t let the gift drama hide what I did.

“There is actually no hard rule as to how much you expect and what you expect.” Spector told the publication.

“As long as you give a gift that feels personal and within your budget, you can go right!”