Vulnerability: High Risk, High Reward – Sex and Relationships

In order to overcome the fear of attachment, we must face our fear and become attached.

Sex addicts and porn addicts share certain characteristics. One of these common traits is that we don’t want others to see our neediness, vulnerability, and desire for emotional intimacy. So we constantly pursue external, non-intimate, temporary solutions. Ironically, this isolates us from ourselves, from our Higher Power, and from those we long to be close to. As part of recovery, we must understand and accept what our true needs are, and then we must take risks and share those needs with others. In other words, we must be vulnerable and risk rejection (our worst fear) in order to gain the intimacy we most desire.

today’s task
Share emotional secrets with people who care about you. Pay attention to the person’s reaction. Notice how you feel after sharing your secret.