Vibrator too strong? Here are 10 things you can try… – Girly

When people find out I’m a professional sex toy reviewer, I get all kinds of funny reactions, like “Yeah, girl, yeah, you’re doing the Lord’s work!” “Aren’t you worried that these things will permanently numb your clitoris?!” (Uh… no. No, I’m not.)

Some of the reactions made me smile, some made me angry—but one made me a little sad. I’ve seen it dozens of times: When they hear me mention vibrators, their faces will fall, and then they’ll lean in conspiratorially and admit, “Those never worked for me. Every time I tried one, it felt too intense and overwhelming. Maybe I’m just not the vibrator kind of person.”

Depending on my mood, and how determined they seem, sometimes I’ll shrug and say, “That’s okay! They’re not for everyone!” But sometimes I want to offer some actionable advice, especially if the person is expressing regret for spending a fortune on a vibrator that’s now gathering dust in a drawer somewhere. I want them to get their money’s worth – I want everyone to get as much pleasure as they want – so I sometimes pass on the following tips for dealing with seemingly powerful vibrators…

1. Be very excited first

If you’re generally an “analog” masturbator, maybe you can usually jump right to your genitals without much warm-up – but with a vibrator, that doesn’t always work that well. Applying super strong vibes to an unaroused part can feel jarring, uncomfortable, and even painful. Take the time to turn yourself on with fantasy, porn, erotica, your hands, letting your partner talk dirty to you, or anything else that always works. If you own another, weaker vibrator, you can even start a session with it before moving on to the “big gun.”

2.…If possible, always keep your phone powered on

I know, for some of us, this is easier said than done, but I do find that the vibrator feels weird if I take too much of my attention away from the task at hand while masturbating. I may need to turn the vibe down for a few minutes and get myself excited again, especially if my brain is feeling particularly anxious or distracted from work stress or other factors.

3. Try going through clothes/layers

I rarely apply wand vibes directly to my junk these days; usually I’ll be wearing at least underwear and sometimes pants. That’s one of the beauties of ultra-powerful vibrators: they can still be felt through the layers, which makes them perfect for lazy masturbators or people with limited energy, limited mobility, etc. that make undressing difficult. You can also try using the vibrator through a blanket/duvet while in bed, as long as you don’t overheat it.

4. Try to place

Intense vibrations can be transmitted through your flesh/skin/muscles, so you don’t have to place the toy directly on your most sensitive spots – you can hold it nearby Go to the area to reduce the intensity while still getting some stimulation. For example, I usually hold the vibration on my outer labia for a while and then gradually move it closer to my clitoris.

5. Try different angles

Depending on the shape of the vibrator, you may find that tilting it slightly creates a different sensation. For example, I usually use the wand at an angle so the corner of the head presses against my clitoris. This will conduct the vibrations into a smaller shape so it won’t be felt as strongly.

6. Take a break

No one says you have to keep the vibrator on for the entire session! Sometimes I’ll lay down for a minute or two, touch myself with my hands, or even just take an occasional breather. Even a 5 or 10 second rest can help your nerve endings “reset” to a certain extent so that the next one feels better.

7. Get attachments

If your vibrator is a standard-sized wand, you can get an attachment like the Vixen Gee Whizzard. These help focus the vibrations into a more precise shape and soften them to a certain extent. While many of these attachments are designed to stimulate the G-spot or prostate, you can’t have Insert them – they also feel good on your clitoris or dick.

8. Kink discomfort

The overwhelming sensation of using a powerful vibrator isn’t inherently a bad thing – for some people, it’s hot! You might find it easier to tolerate these types of feelings if a sexy pervert instructs you to do this…or even if you just imagine That’s it. It’s fun to have an orgasm that sometimes feels a little scary!

9. If possible, try it underwater

If your vibrator is waterproof (check its instruction manual), you may find that using it in the bath dampens the vibrations slightly. Sometimes I even like to hold a powerful vibrator an inch or two away from my clit and enjoy how it works water vibrating, thereby indirectly stimulating me. Physics is cool!

10. Use it for muscle massage, or give massage to others

Even if a vibrator isn’t right for your genitals, other parts of your body may enjoy it—perhaps your tense neck and shoulders after a hard day at work, for example, or the soles of your feet after a long walk. You can also use a vibrator on your partner, if they’re into that – or sterilize it and give it to a friend who’ll be happy to inherit it. You are so generous!

What other strategies have worked for you when a vibrator feels too strong?

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