Vaginismus and sensitive clit

Im not sure if this is the right tag but oh well. I have severe vaginismus and an extremely sensitive clitoris. If i brush it or touch it, it burns and/or makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. So, penetration and direct clit stimulation aren’t possible. I need a barrier between my hand and my clit when i masturbate, mainly through panties and a pad (i live with my parents so im able to dispose of the evidence since i discharge a lot too).

Anyways, im looking for some toys that are extremely versatile. Ive heard good things about things that suck and lick since they dont make direct contact, but im anxious because i dont know what they feel like. A bullet might be good through clothes, but it might be too powerful (however, my friend got me the calexotics hide and play lipstick vibe for when i move out of parents house in a month). Im interested in a wand, since i like my folds being played with and it provides stimulation over a larger area. Grinders are something i am looking into as well. I also know that latex panties are a thing.

In summary, i am looking for a toy(s) that is/are:
-versatile (with high and low intensities for exploration and sensitivity)
-body safe, preferrably silicone
-rechargable or AA/AAA batteries

Preferred qualities, but not required:
-budget
-waterproof
-soft to the touch
-easy to hold onto
-quiet
-compatible with natural or water-based lubes

Im so sorry this is so long, but thank you if you are still here <3 and idk if this helps but im a lesbian? I think? Idk

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