Ultimate Guide to Sex Positions: Queening | Aldult Toys Blog

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Whether you’re just starting out with a new partner or looking to spice things up with an old flame, this series of guides is for you.

Then we have a positive Royal position known as Queening.

Queen :

As Men’s health She says it so eloquently: “If you’re on the giving side of the equation, think of your partner as your queen…and your face as her throne.”

Queening, also called facesitting, occurs when one partner sits on the other’s face to enable oral-genital or oral-anal sexual contact.

According to Urban DictionaryQueening is an “ancient art in which a woman presses and rubs her genitals and/or anus against the tongue, lips, and nose of her subordinate… Originally, it was a way for upper-class women (including queens) who wished to obtain sexual satisfaction without becoming pregnant; whether they were virgins or married without a husband. It was usually the job of male slaves and servants to submit to the desires of their mistresses…” The practice can apparently be seen in ancient Egyptian drawings, and is also an integral part of Japanese, Chinese, Indian, medieval European, Victorian, and other cultures. Go figure.

Today, Queening is common in twist And BDSM circles, and it is a popular way to exercise sexual power and/or explore erotic asphyxiation. Some prefer to use a queen’s chairwhich is a low seat that fits over the submittedand contains an opening to allow oral stimulation of the receiving partner while seated. Although a person of any gender identity can be the receiver of facesitting, queening is often performed by the women– identify the dominant partner.

Even for those who aren’t attracted to dominance or submission, or to any particular kinks, queening is often seen as a way for women to achieve sexual satisfaction. And those who consent to being queened also do so because they find it incredibly arousing.

(Not so) fun fact: Facesitting was one of the prohibited acts in a 2014 UK-produced porn, inciting protesters to sit on top of each other in public (fully clothed), in order to highlight sexist changes to the law that appear to target women’s sexual pleasure. In other words, Queening is also a subversive act!

Note on conditions:

When talking about penetration, we use the terms “thrusting partner” for the person with the penis (biological or synthetic) and “receiving partner” for the person accepting the act of penetration (vaginal or anal).

It is important to note that being a receiver is not a passive, submissive role. It is an active, enthusiastic role. There is power in choice, and by choosing to invite their partner into themselves, the receiver exercises that power.

Additionally, the thrusting partner is not just a giver. Of course, he or she also receives pleasure during the act. But for the sake of clarity and consistency, we have selected these terms for both sides of the dynamic.

How to do:

The queen in question kneels over her “subject” (i.e. the partner giving or pushing), who will be lying on his back. The queen then straddles his face with one leg on each side and uses her thigh muscles to hover just above his mouth.

Unless otherwise agreed, the receiving partner (the Queen) usually does not sit with her full body weight, so Queening can be a simultaneous sex act and thigh workout.

Once the Queen is in position, her partner must do what he normally does when performing cunnilingus:sucking, kissing, flicking with their tongues and pushing with their noses, for maximum clitoral bliss.

Reasons why we love it:

-This is an excellent position to achieve orgasm because it facilitates unhindered clitoral stimulationas well as total control for the receiving partner, two qualities that may be difficult to achieve in other positions.

-It is perfectly suited to accommodate partners interested in exploring a sense of dominance, or who enjoy feeling adored by their partner.

-It is ideal for givers who like to feel submissive, as the receiving partner can ride their face as much as they want.

-If the giving partner is an “ass man,” he’ll be in for a surprise: a face full of ass, baby.

-This is a position that encourages ongoing communication and consent. While the receiving partner communicates their preferences, the thrusting partner must also be able to communicate (via a safe word (or a gesture, perhaps) if something isn’t working or they need a break.

Variations to try:

Besides choosing whether to place their knees on either side of their lover’s face or squat directly above them (as discussed earlier), there is another main variation to explore when Queening:

Reverse Queen

The receiving partner stands above his partner’s face, but facing the opposite direction, so that he is facing his partner’s feet.

This variant is particularly well suited to exploring the crazy adventure that is rimmingAKA rimming, or oral-anal pleasure. Delicious between consenting adults.

Other tips and tricks:

– For partners who are fully exploring erotic asphyxiation (AKA breath play) together, the receiving partner can attempt to “smother” the thrusting partner, with sufficient force. safety precautionsalways.

– If hovering over her partner becomes difficult, the queen can cling to the bed frame for added stability.

– As the receiving partner, the Queen should feel free to take full advantage of this stimulating position to tell her partner what feels good, what seems mind-blowing, and what seems weirdAfter all, a queen is a queen is a queen.