Trouble, agree and share decency

There are weird people, we walk among you, most of the time you will never know! But what happens when Kinksters’ personal tendencies and bedroom pranks seep into the “real world”? How many? How do we navigate tangles, agreement and common decency?

Intent and influence

Sometimes kinks in public can make me angry because the kink community has been so misunderstood, hatred and fear that annoying in such activities that the public goes to the public, however subtle, can hurt the community and increase the gap. That is, if there is no consent, it is something that the uninformed public cannot give. No matter how good or benign it looks, isn’t that a huge boundary? Does this mean that all social boundaries and social norms are perfect? Of course not, but becoming weird in public is not the way to change people’s minds. Public games may be my pet hate, but does that mean that all non-Vanilla things have to happen at home? No.

Context is everything

Everyone goes crazy in sex clubs, sex parties, orgy. The difference between these events/spaces and the kinks in public every day is huge: Awareness and consent. If you go to the BDSM Club, you should expect to see Kink’s action. If you are in a grocery store, you won’t expect to see anyone kinks, but be proud you will see more than you might expect. If you are casual on a Tuesday night at the logic code of the revelry: weird shit can happen around you. But go to the mall with the kids? This should not include random, surprisingly tangled experiences.

Troubled with unfair life

“But what if my kinks become kinks and are seen in public? “Sorry – Again, there is no shame, but it’s just a reasonable request. Find a role-playing method, “see” this in a gender-friendly space, or find more subtle ways to express yourself in public places without infringing on anyone’s consent. Public spaces are not places to play fantasy or tow human pets. Stop all.

But how do we normalize the kink if it is always hidden?

I’m all because it’s becoming more mainstream, and people are more likely to get people to visit, but only for those who are interested. Like a kinker, it is not our right or responsibility to recruit people to this drama or this way of life. People will find it all on their own, and we all do it.

OK, if you have to

If you really feel oppressed by not being allowed to play in public, then if you really feel that your civil liberties are being suppressed, if you really feel that your identity is the clothes you need to wear on your sleeves, why not dress up? I’m not suggesting that the public be naked or expose themselves, but rather wear collars or cuffs, or show off straps, a bond-inspired bra under a pure top may help tickling. You will still get some incredible or negative attention from the public connection you might want, but the BDSM style and theme are always woven in fashion, so the outfit you are wearing can be a great compromise to express your connection aspect.

I personally do not want to express my personal self publicly. The fact that this is a secret taboo is almost a tangle in itself! For those who want to tangle loudly in public places, you may have to wait for a while until the world catches up. Until then, stay safe, have fun with other adults, and stay tangled.

Where did you land in a public debate? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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