The world says having a boyfriend is embarrassing

Is it embarrassing to have a boyfriend now?

Thanks to British Vogue by Chanté Joseph, this is what everyone is talking about In the article, she delves into the fact that women are posting less about their partners on social media than ever before.

The article claims that we’ve gone from a culture obsessed with boyfriend status symbols — names in Instagram bios and carousels devoted to love photos — to, if you’re lucky, a man’s elbow appearing in a story that expires in 24 hours.

“To me, this feels like the result of women trying to straddle two worlds: one where they can enjoy the social benefits of having a partner without appearing so obsessed with their boyfriend that they look like a cultural failure,” Ms. Joseph wrote.

It delves into the idea that women want to be seen as more than just their relationship, while also wanting to protect it from people who are desperate to interfere, or worse, the horrible moment of having to hide photos of you on Instagram because you’ve broken up.

Frankly, it’s also trying to break through the heteronormative idea that to be happy, you have to be in a relationship.

The article also talks about how being single is now a resiliency (yes, sometimes it’s because I have no one to answer to but myself, but my god, the single tax is real).

At (nearly) 30, my relationship status is more along the lines of “single” and “complicated” than surrounded by friends in long-term relationships, I can’t lie. This article piqued my interest. I know a lot of incredible women and what I hate most is when absolute icons dim their shine to accommodate their relationships.

Obviously there’s nothing wrong with being in love and being proud of it, but I’ve always believed it’s important to have a life and personality outside of the person you’re making out with.

For me personally, this article shows that romantic relationships are transforming into the ultimate status symbol. Platonic relationships, family, career, hobbies and reaching financial milestones are all in the mix now. Therefore, being single does not mean you are incomplete.

The post sparked a lot of debate online as smart, hilarious single women celebrated breaking free from the idea that their lives were sad without a man.

Shameless Media’s Ruby Hall posts a TikTok dancing to a Taylor Swift song Ophelia’s fate The caption read: “Apparently it’s fashionable to be single right now.”

TikTok user Lydia posted a video of herself waving and blowing a kiss to George Michael’s father.

“Thank you British Vogue for making all the girls who have been single their whole lives feel so empowered right now. It’s a well-deserved win for us,” said Lydia.

Meanwhile, publicist Lulu Davidson released a similar clip to the Mamma Mia movie version of Winner Takes All.

“How does it feel to be single after British Vogue declared that having a boyfriend is embarrassing? I’m always ahead of the curve,” she said.

Abby Baffoe, who has 1.3 million followers, shared a video of herself getting dressed up to celebrate the news.

“British Vogue came out and declared that having a boyfriend was embarrassing. What a wonderful time it was for single women,” she said.

Dating expert Sera Bozza says having a boyfriend isn’t embarrassing, but in fact, relying on a relationship to define your identity is.

“I think [the article is] It is less about women rejecting men and more about women rejecting dependence. For decades, being ‘someone’s girlfriend’ was seen as a personality,” she told news.com.au.

“Now we’re moving to another way of building a complete online identity that says, I choose me. That’s progress, but it can also improve performance.”

She says it’s the remnants of what influencer Tinx calls “boyfriend disease” — when your friends start falling in love and then disappear. Now, it has moved to the online world as well.

Ms. Boza said celebrating singlehood is definitely transformative, but there’s a big difference between “I’m single because I’m growing” and “I’m single because men suck,” only the first is an empowering move.

“Real flexibility is not about being single or being taken. Either way it’s safe,” she said.

However, this dating guru raises an interesting point about why we feel this way – is it just boredom with boyfriend content, or is there something “darker” about it?

“When women are unfollowed for posting about their partners or ridiculed for being happy, it’s not just about being tired of ‘boyfriend content.’ The internet loves a collective villain, and lately that villain has been women who are too happy, too partnered, too content,” she said.

“‘Boyfriends Are Out’ sounds like a joke, but it implies that women who find great men are somehow cheating on others.

“It’s the crab-in-the-barrel effect: If one crab tries to climb out, the others will pull it back in. The message is, ‘Don’t get beyond collective disappointment.'”

“I’m tired of performative couple culture, highlight reels, matching subtitles, but punishing people in healthy relationships is just another form of self-sabotage.”

She also expressed concern that it was going too far and that caring or sharing that we had found love would be seen as “cringe-worthy.”

“We act like love is cringe-worthy, but what’s really cringe-worthy is pretending we don’t want it,” she said.

“If seeing a woman in love makes you roll your eyes, it’s not her problem. It’s because you’re uncomfortable with something you no longer believe in.”

Overall, she did say that it’s important to have a life outside of your partner, and that both people need their own identities, routines, and friends. She said a healthy relationship should be like a Venn diagram.

“Two full circles overlap, rather than two halves trying to complement each other. You need your own identity, routines and friends, and a beautiful overlap in the middle, otherwise you end up orbiting someone else’s life,” she said.

“Independence does not threaten connection; it protects connection. People who maintain a sense of self tend to have stronger, more sustainable relationships.”