The Ultimate Guide to Sex Positions: The Lotus | Aldult Toys Blog

Let’s talk about sex positions.

Whether you’re just starting out with a new partner or looking to spice things up with an old flame, this series of guides is for you.

Next we have the deeply intimate Lotus position.

Lotus:

The lotus position (AKA the “yab-yum” position) is a tantric sex position in which one partner sits on the other’s lap facing each other, for intimate penetration or external stimulation, depending on the mood.

In tantra—an ancient Indian spiritual belief system that focuses on the movement of energy (including sexual energy) between partners to encourage healing, spiritual growth, and deeper intimacy. The lotus represents the union of the penetrating masculine (Shiva) and receptive feminine (Shakti) energies. However, partners can play either role or even switch between them freely, regardless of gender identity.

Lotus is actually based on the lotus yoga positionin which you sit cross-legged, but with your feet resting on your thighs. The lotus sex position is similar and involves one partner sitting cross-legged and the other facing them while straddling them. cowgirlbut sitting upright. The configuration leaves two bodies face to face pressed tightly together, for a romance of all flavors.

If you are looking for a very up close and personal position, where you can sit wrapped around your partner, kiss, talk/whisper, make eye contact and change angles as needed, Lotus may be for you.

Note on conditions:

When talking about penetration, we use the terms “thrusting partner” for the person with the penis (biological or synthetic) and “receiving partner” for the person accepting the act of penetration (vaginal or anal).

It is important to note that being a receiver is not a passive, submissive role. It is an active, enthusiastic role. There is power in choice, and by choosing to invite their partner into themselves, the receiver exercises that power.

Additionally, the thrusting partner is not just a giver. Of course, he or she also receives pleasure during the act. But for the sake of clarity and consistency, we have selected these terms for both sides of the dynamic.

How to do:

To get into this position, the thrusting partner sits cross-legged (on the bed or wherever you want to have sex). The receiving partner then straddles them tightly and lowers themselves so that they are effectively chest-to-chest and eye-to-eye. The receiving partner’s legs are wrapped around the thrusting partner’s waist or torso. If comfortable, the thrusting partner can also pull the receiver closer with their arms. Feel free to wrap your arms around each other and really ease into this position.

Once you’ve achieved the position, the details of what exactly you do depend entirely on your genital combination and sexual preferences.

Typically, the thrusting partner penetrates the receiving partner, either vaginally or anally. Since the position is meant to encourage a slow, soulful fusion rather than a fast, orgasm-driven motion, you may want to experiment with slow rocking.

If penetration is not an optionyou could explore oral-nipple stimulationmanual stimulation (all hands!), kiss, narrowing, external vibratorsand or sharpening.

Reasons why we love it:

-Encourage privacy and closeness through prolonged eye contact and heart-to-heart connection

-Promote communication (your faces are so close that the conversation flows more naturally)

– Leaves your hands free for self-stimulation or stimulation of one’s partner

-Hands-free also means plenty of opportunities for exploration erogenous zonesand/or using sex toys

-Versatility: angle/position can be easily adjusted and explored with or without penetration

Variations to try:

Draped Lotus

The receiving partner places his knees on the pushing partner’s shoulders rather than around his waist, letting his feet fall behind his back.

For those interested in anal sexThis variation can be surprising because the receiving partner’s anus is more easily accessible this way.

Lotus chair

The pushing partner sits on a chair, either cross-legged or with his feet on the floor, and the receiver sits on his partner’s lap facing him, but with his legs hanging down toward the floor.

This variation offers more freedom of movement, as both partners can push off the floor and hold on to the back of the chair. In addition, the chair offers better back support.

Inverted Lotus

The receiving partner sits on his partner’s lap, with his legs crossed or in a squatting position, but with his back to him.

This variation can be fun, especially if you have breasts, because your partner can hold them while he thrusts. It can also be a good accessibility option for those exploring anal.

Straight legs

Instead of wrapping completely around each other, one or both partners can keep their legs straight or slightly bent. The pushing partner should also feel free to lean against a wall.

This one is for those who are worried about having to be ultra flexible or do yoga to manage the lotus position. Wrong.

Kneeling

The receiving partner may kneel while straddling the bottom partner (supporting some of their own weight), while maintaining full body contact.

This variation alleviates some of the tension potentially felt by the pushing partner, who is carrying most of the weight in this position.

Lean back

In the usual position, both partners lean (or stretch) back slightly, changing the angle of their hips and providing deeper penetration and G point stimulation than the traditional Lotus.

If you or your partner are more flexible or want a slightly different penetration sensation, this variation may be right for you.

Other tips and tricks:

-Work in some dirty talkFace-to-face positions are incredibly conducive to experimenting with erotic conversations or simple words of affection. Don’t overthink it. Something as simple as “You feel so good” or “I love being close to you” could just change your (sex) life.

-Add some lubricant to the mix. Lube helps reduce friction, increases glide between bodies (or fingers and nipples), supports changes in speed and tempo, and is an absolute must for anal. Bellesa’s Water based lubricant is a great option, especially if you plan on using silicone-based toys or latex barriers like condoms Or dental damsbecause other lubricants can break them down and compromise their effectiveness.

-To integrate sex toys. Vibrators tend to take things to the next level in any position. A vibrating cock ring like Halo or a portable couple toy like the Luvli Ditto 2 work best for penetrative sex. Meanwhile, the classic Nirvana magic wand and the rechargeable Body wand are perfect for non-penetrative play and can be used on any part of the body.

– Experiment with eye contact. If the mood is right, you and your partner could try it tantric contemplationStart by fixing the right eye on the right eye, the left eye on the left eye. Then, breathe together. Eye contact takes us to whole new levels of intimacy. If you feel the need to look away, that’s okay. Trust the process. <3