Maybe putting up a wall is a good thing for a relationship.
Dating apps are so much a product of the last decade that singles of all ages in New York line up on weekends to have their photos posted on a wall in Brooklyn’s McCarren Park — hoping to find their next partner.
“It’s just a more exciting way to meet new people,” Greenpoint resident Griffin McLaughlin, 24, told The Washington Post.
Every Saturday and Sunday, from noon to 8 p.m., the brick wall across from the park’s tennis courts transforms into New York City’s busiest pickup spot, where romantic couples drop off and try their luck in public.
To participate, you scan a QR code on the website and donate a suggested $25 to $60—higher prices can include a tarot reading. You’ll receive two Polaroids taken by local photographer Bob Greco, also known as “Picture Man Bob.”
One photo you take home and another you put on the wall, along with a colorful index card with some personal information on it—name, age, gender, what you’re looking for, and words that describe you.
So far, more than 600 people, ranging in age from 19 to 55, have tried the wall.
Those who dare to take part can look at their fellow participants and tell the two organisers – Vaishnavi Sesetty, 23, and Cyrus Belsoi, 25 – who they like and to whom they would like their pictures and details to be passed on.
The participants’ photos are changed every five weeks, and alumni on the wall are invited to private gatherings.
“It shows everyone that other people are single too, and you’re not alone.” Daniel Miller, 25, of Westchester County, told The Washington Post. “It’s a new and unique activity and people do it just because it’s fun. Even if it doesn’t happen, it’s an experience.”
Because 80% of Americans say swiping on dating apps leaves them “exhausted,” the wall organizers created a no-swipe dating app called Pique Dating—but they barely advertised it on the wall. They just wanted to help facilitate connections.
That’s exactly what Alyssa Peck was looking for.
“It feels like people on dating apps right now aren’t really looking for a genuine connection,” the 21-year-old told The Washington Post — a sentiment echoed by many others. “I’m looking for someone who’s genuine.”
Some romantics also look forward to a love story.
“I didn’t think there was anything special about meeting people online,” McLaughlin said. “But if you were walking by a park and saw someone really exciting and fell in love, it would be like something out of a movie. So I stopped at my wall. I would date the cool people and post their pictures there.”
He was walking through the park when the crowd at the wall drew him in—and he wasn’t the only one.
Throughout the day, the wall attracted just about everyone who wandered through the iconic spot on the Williamsburg/Greenpoint border, from married couples reminiscing about dating days to singles considering joining in.
“You know it’s hard to date in New York,” Becky, a 25-year-old single in New York, told The Washington Post.
“I do wish there were more encounters. I wish it would be like it was in the old days, or like it was in the old days, where you just wanted to get to know someone and date normally like you used to.”
But for some, the wall has become that place.
Ben Abrahamsson asked two women out while hanging out by the wall.
“The apps are just so confusing,” the 34-year-old told The Washington Post, which is why he added his own photos to his wall.
As he filled out his information card and waited for the material to be posted, he told the woman next to him a stupid joke he couldn’t even remember. The two stood and talked, eventually deciding to walk to a nearby bar for a drink.
The next week, when he stopped by to check out new photos, he chatted with another woman and asked her out — she was just visiting the city, so it didn’t work out. He also gave her a few likes.
“I love not having to swipe. That’s honestly the most important thing,” Abrahamson said, noting that the app always makes it seem like the next person might be a better fit.
“There are so many options. Things like this help. Narrow down the choices.”