The 7 Most Common Sexual Fantasies

What’s your favorite sexual fantasy of all time? I asked 4,175 Americans to tell me their biggest sexual desire as part of a recent survey I conducted and the results were, well, fascinating, to say the least. As I combed through all of these fantasies, I uncovered seven major themes that seem to characterize the nature of sexual desire in the United States today. Below, I’ve put together a brief video that highlights what each of those themes are.

If you want to learn more about sexual fantasies, check out my new book Tell Me What You Want for a deep dive into the psychology behind our sexual wants and turn-ons. This book explores where our sexual fantasies come from, what they say about us, and why different people have different sex fantasies. It also offers insight into how to talk to your partner about your fantasies and what you need to know if you’re thinking about making the jump from fantasy to reality. The book comes out July 10 and I’m offering a special bonus to those who preorder it. Scroll below the video to learn more.

Exclusive preorder bonus for Tell Me What You Want:

If you preorder the book (available from Amazon here and other retailers here) before July 10, you will receive exclusive access to the following materials:

• A bonus chapter from Tell Me What You Want that dives into the psychology behind some of the less common sexual fantasies (such as dressing up like an animal to have sex–also known as a furry fantasy). This chapter is not in the book and will contain information about sexual fantasies that you won’t find anywhere else.
• Early access to the Introduction from Tell Me What You Want, which teases some of the findings from the largest survey of sexual fantasies in America and explains how this book has the potential to help you improve your sex life and your relationship(s).
• An exclusive video from the author in which he talks about why he wrote Tell Me What You Want and what you can expect when your copy of the book arrives.
• Three infographics created from the largest survey of sexual fantasies in America (the survey that formed the foundation for Tell Me What You Want). These infographics contain data you won’t find in the book and they focus on (1) the sex/kissing scenes from movies that we fantasize about most often, (2) the science fiction elements that are most likely to appear in our fantasies (aliens and robots and vampires, oh my!), and (3) the uniforms/costumes that we are most likely to fantasize about a partner wearing.

Already preordered the book? Visit this page to claim your bonus! Enjoy!

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