Temperature Play 101 | Aldult Toys Blog

Chances are you’ve thought about “spicing up” or “heating up” your sex life at some point. Whether you’re in a long-term committed relationship, dating a new lover, or dating someone new, it’s only natural to want to experiment with new and exciting sensations.

As long as you and your partner are both on the same page, there’s nothing stopping you from literally heating things up in the bedroom…or cooling them down, depending on your mood. thermostat.

What is temperature play?

This is what it seems to be: an erotic form of consensual Sensation play that uses heat or cold to stimulate neuroreceptors under the skin to elicit a sensual response or, in other words, heighten the senses. Temperature play is a technique used in BDSM And vanilla similar preliminaries.

Substances used to create the desired effect may include water, oil, candle waxice, chocolate syrup, whipped cream, melted butterchilled fresh fruit and steamed vegetables, to name a few. Objects may include cutlery, ball chains or necklaces, often pre-heated in hot water or cooled in ice water. Radiators, heaters and other heat sources may also be used to stimulate sensory awareness. In the most extreme cases, Play with fire is a high-risk variation of temperature play that involves using flames on or very close to the skin (this one is for those more experienced in the art of temperature play).

Whichever method you decide to use, safety precautions must be taken, appropriate to all materials, techniques and body parts involved!

How to try the temperature game

The great thing about temperature play is that it’s 100% adjustable and adaptable to your needs. You can do it solo, as a couple, with a toy, without a toy, etc. The possibilities are endless. Need some suggestions? Feel free to try one of the following ideas suggested by sexperts:

– Perform oral sex after drinking a glass of cold water or a cup of hot tea (without spices or sweeteners!)

– Lick the ice cream off your partner’s bare chest

– Cool a glass Or metal dildo Or anal plug before inserting it vaginally or anally

– Let an ice cube melt on your partner’s nipples or something else erogenous zones

– Caress your partner with a vibrator

– Direct pressure with warm-hot water from the shower head on the vulva

– Pour warm oil or body-safe candle wax onto your partner’s back and massage.

– Warm or freeze a towel and place it on your partner’s neck

A note on ice play

Playing with ice right after sex can be very euphoric/intense. One way to do this is for the giving partner to place an ice cube in their mouth and then run it along different parts of the receiving partner’s body, much like cold, tingling kisses. Putting the ice in the mouth also ensures that it is melted enough that it doesn’t stick to the receiver’s skin or burn it. Another way to prevent it from sticking/burning is to briefly run it under cold water. If you’re not a beginner and are looking to up the ante, the giving partner can have the receiving partner put a plastic bag filled with ice in their underwear until they say a safe word. Even more intense, and not for beginners or the faint-hearted: slide them a ice dildo containing a condom in their vagina or anus (use lubricant).

A note on wax play

Wax play has many of the thrills of fire play, with less risk, making it a great introduction to temperature play. The idea is to heat up the wax in a candle and use the melted wax on your or your partner’s skin. The composition of the candle is important, as its composition (soy, paraffin, beeswax), added fragrances, and/or dyes will all affect its melting point. It’s best to buy candles that are specifically designed for kink, ones that list the melting temperature and are non-toxic. Always be sure to avoid candles that contain ingredients that you or your partner are allergic to or sensitive to. Finally, determine Or You’re going to play. For example, the bathtub can make the sensation of hot wax less intense for beginners and has the added benefit of making cleanup easier. Otherwise, it might be a good idea to use a surface protector to avoid staining the sheets. Oh, and be sure to blow out the candle before you start playing. What else? Drip the wax from a higher distance to start, as it will cool down a bit as it travels through the air.

Tips and tricks

Depending on what form of temperature play you and your partner decide to adopt, consider the following tips and tricks to combine sensuality and safety in equal measure:

– Start slowly and carefully. Especially if you’re a beginner. You don’t want to get into more daring forms of temperature play like fire play, branding, or ice dildos.

– Consider blindfolding and/or bondage. Temperature play is sometimes combined with blindfold and or slavery because restricting the receiving partner’s sense of sight and/or movement can further intensify the sensations of hot and cold, making them more delicious than ever.

– Be afraid of fire. Whether you’re playing with fire (which is highly discouraged for beginners) or simply using fire to light a candle, a first aid certification is a plus. Otherwise, it’s a good idea to have a safety kit with a fire blanket on hand, as well as access to burn cream and aloe vera, even if no one gets burned. A good hair tie will help ensure that no one’s hair is in danger. Finally, it’s always a good idea to have a bottle of water nearby to keep hydrated.

– Prepare the ice cream in advance. If you want to play with ice, be sure to fill your ice cube trays ahead of time to avoid a mad dash to the store. You can also store glass or metal toys in the refrigerator before your play session at room temperature (glass or metal are best because they can handle the surrounding temperatures better).

– Use water. The quickest and body-safe way to cool or heat your sex toys is to submerge them in cold or hot water.

– Keep warm blankets and socks nearby. If you are playing in the cold and are exposed to snow or freezing temperatures, make sure you have warm-up accessories immediately and easily available. Toe warmers and finger warmers are a plus.

– If you’re not interested, don’t pretend. Not everyone is interested in temperature play. Not wanting to play with ice or heat doesn’t make you a boring lover. And if you’re into heat but hate cold, tell him so, or vice versa. Communication East always hot.

The important thing is hot (or cold) sex for everyone, in accordance with your most intimate desires! <3