Sydney man demands $6 after failed coffee date

A Sydney man who asked a woman to repay the $6 he spent on her coffee during a date has revealed why modern relationships are doomed to fail.

He met British expat Emily, 29, on the beach and invited her out for a drink, she agreed to meet him and the two then had coffee together.

But after the date, Emily admitted she felt there was “no spark” between them, prompting him to do the unexpected: ask her to pay for her hot drink.

While Emily was shocked by his petty reaction, Melbourne psychologist Carly Dober said the man’s reaction was common and warned it was an “unhealthy approach to dating and relationships”.

“Men do this partly because if they’ve invested time and money in the date, they feel they’re entitled to the woman’s time and romantic or sexual investment,” Dober told news.com.au.

“It’s normal to feel hurt and upset if you’re rejected, and in the wider human experience, being rejected is a normal part of dating, however it can also be a sign of low emotional intelligence and/or poor emotion regulation.”

“His response was expected because he had misogynistic attitudes toward women, or because his social and cultural environment taught him that women have an obligation to give you their time and attention.”

Emily seemed to express as much in her popular video, which has been viewed more than 85,000 times since it was posted on Monday.

“Oh my god, I can’t believe this is happening to me,” she said in the TikTok video.

“I had just started dating a boy who asked me out after I met him at the beach… We had a cup of coffee together and decided to keep this relationship very chill.”

After returning home, Emily explained that she felt no romantic connection with her date and decided to text him in the hopes that they could still be friends.

“I thought I’d have the decency to send him a message instead of ignoring him,” she explained before sharing the text.

It read: “Thank you so much for organizing the picnic, unfortunately the weather wasn’t very good. It was nice to meet you but I felt there was no spark between us, but maybe we’ll see each other again in the future. Hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend.”

She ended the message with a smiley face emoji.

However, she did not take it well and the man quickly responded, demanding she reimburse him for the coffee he bought for her.

“Hey! I agree – we’re so different. I wish you the best. PS: Your coffee is $6.”

Finally, he shared his Payid number so Emily could transfer the money to him.

“Six bucks? He asked me to send him six bucks for coffee,” she shared on TikTok.

She responded that she had “never heard of anyone asking a girl out and then asking for money.” In her video, she indicated that she had no intention of paying.

The conversation doesn’t end there, with the mystery man claiming he has “no intention” of pursuing her and that “I would appreciate it if you could cover your responsibility.”

He concluded: “It would not be a good thing for you to keep so little money.”

Dober, who works at Melbourne’s Enriching Life Psychology Clinic, said it was more common for men to lash out after being rejected, which actually hindered daters’ chances of finding love.

“If what they want is love or intimacy, then this behavior makes it harder for them to get that,” she shared.

“If women have had this experience, they may also have a harder time finding motivation to date other men, and may be less willing to meet new people and date if they feel like they owe a man something for a cup of coffee.

“The end result is that people become more lonely rather than building respectful and enjoyable connections.”

News.com.au has contacted Emily for further comment.