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Would you stop loving someone because they cheated on you? I don’t think so. This is why betrayal hurts so much.

When asked to describe our sex addictive behaviors, most of us talk about various forms of sexual exploration – purely sexual activities that lack any kind of emotional component or connection, such as watching porn, hiring a prostitute, webcam masturbation and similar behavior. Sexual exploration, so to speak. We often think that because it doesn’t make any sense to us on an emotional level, that it’s not cheating and that our significant other really shouldn’t care about it. However, our partners often view the situation differently. For them, infidelity is more about a loss of relationship trust than any specific sexual act. Therefore, if we have sex in any way and keep it secret from our partner, we are violating relationship trust. In other words, we’re cheating.

today’s task
Think of three “reasons” you thought (and maybe still think) that your sex addictive behavior was okay and didn’t bother your partner. Share these reasons in therapy or a 12-step meeting and ask for feedback.