My Journey: Sexual Healing and Love
What on earth made you want to become a sexologist?! I get asked this question a lot and it’s a difficult question to answer simply. To be honest, I have always been interested in the topic of sex therapy and love. But as a young woman with so many hopes and dreams for the future, I never thought I would choose this path.
It has been an interesting and fulfilling journey so far, and many factors have contributed to my choice to become a “sex expert”.
Sex Therapy and Love: What is Sex Therapy?
- What is sex therapy?
Sex therapy is a professional counseling service that addresses sexual problems and improves sexual health and intimacy. - Who Can Benefit from Sex Therapy?
Individuals or couples who are experiencing sexual dysfunction, intimacy issues, or relationship problems may benefit from sex therapy. - What happens during sex therapy?
Sessions typically include open discussion, education, and exercises to address sexual issues and improve communication. - Is sex therapy confidential?
Yes, sex therapy is confidential. Therapists adhere to strict privacy and ethical standards to protect their clients’ information. - How to find a qualified sex therapist?
Look for a licensed therapist who is specially trained and certified in sex therapy from a reputable organization.
I worked as a mental health worker
Before becoming a sexologist, I worked as a mental health nurse. Although it sounds very different, some of the skills I learned in this job will stay with me throughout my life. My Career as a Sexologistin fact these skills can be applied to all areas of my life!
Although it was difficult, this experience helped me become a sexologist
I entered the mental health field right out of school with a burning desire to help others. I am fascinated by people and it feels like the right thing to do to show my compassion and kindness to others when they need it. As a mental health nurse, I get in touch with a side of humanity that is often isolated and condemned, working with many people in deep crisis.
Some are so miserable that they feel suicide is the only acceptable option. Some are so disconnected from their bodies and “reality” that they can’t function in our world. People from all walks of life, at the extremes in each of us.
I want to help everyone out there.
Initially, I felt honored to be a part of the healing in these people’s lives. I know a lot of people can’t “handle” being around someone in a serious mental crisis state, so a part of me (probably my ego) was proud of myself for stepping into this work.
I have often heard that it takes a certain type of person to work in the mental health field, and having experienced it firsthand, I know this to be absolutely true. Working in an environment with people in the acute stages of mental illness puts you on high alert, just in case.
Unfortunately, this is not healthy for me.
You’re constantly watching your back and on high alert to protect clients, employees, and yourself from harm. It’s not something you can just walk out the door at the end of the day and turn off. We have this idea of ”leaving work at work” and forgetting about it when we get home, but work is our life, isn’t it? I found that trying to separate the two did more harm than good, and I realized that I wasn’t living authentically or with integrity in this job.
My dreams for something different grew stronger. I realized that caring for others should not come at the expense of our own happiness, nor should we be driven by the desire to help others for external validation. I believe that true service to others in this world is about doing the things that make us feel alive, following our desires, and pursuing the things that excite and thrill us. For me, that has always been sex.
Human sexuality is a wild and fascinating topic
Human sexuality has always fascinated me in many ways. I have always been curious about why sex is so important in our lives and not just for procreation. Why do people feel sexual attraction to one person and not another? Why do people become more and more sexually attracted to one person and not another? Shop BDSM, Kink & Fetish Products?
How can we have more satisfying sex in our lives? Why does sex, which is so pleasurable and wonderful, attract so much shame and stigma? These questions and many others have always fascinated me, so working in a field where I can explore sexuality fits perfectly with my passions and values.
People naturally seek my advice
In addition to my passion for learning about sex, I also found myself to be someone people were willing to talk to about their private lives. I remember a few years ago, a woman I knew shared with me a very private story about her sex life with her husband, something she had never shared with anyone before.
Feeling the trust she placed in opening up to me, I knew I had something special to offer others. When I can create a space for people to feel confident and comfortable with their sexuality, it warms my heart and makes me grateful to be alive.
I feel blessed that I can contribute to the world in this way.
I am happy and blessed to know that my connection to my sexuality can allow others to feel a beautiful connection to their own sexuality. It is truly a gift to know that I can play a role in creating a society that desperately needs it. The positive shift towards sexuality in our societyno matter how big or small the portion is.
Sexual health has always been an overlooked area of our lives so it’s really important to do this work. I’m just starting out in my career but I hope that the topics I post about and the people who welcome my support in my courses will benefit from what I have to offer. This feels like the beginning of an extremely fulfilling and energizing career path so stay tuned for what’s next…
By: Sexologist Stephanie Curtis
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