Real talk about dating and relationships

Today on Dear Sybersue I answer questions from a few different men. Does she like me or is she just playing games? Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating.

Men wonder why women don’t express their feelings sincerely and come across as high-maintenance women. They wonder why women play so many pretentious games on the first few dates! Some men are becoming increasingly frustrated with the dating game. “Why don’t women just say what they really mean? Do they think playing ‘hot and cold’ will interest men?”

Women also complain that most men don’t show interest until they get her into bed! Some women say this is one of the reasons they stay away from men. Both sexes need to be honest and stop this push/pull scenario that’s going on. If you really want to be in a committed relationship, stop playing guessing games or playing hard to get.

Why are there so many mixed signals for both genders? How can you change this?

1. If you want a real relationship, you have to be real! Confident people are always more attractive than pretentious people.
2. Stop playing games and show your date your fun side.
3. There may be mixed signals due to uncertainty or fear that the date won’t work out. Make sure you’re ready for a date.
4. You may not realize that you’re subconsciously sabotaging your date by sending mixed signals. You feel like you’re not worthy of a partnership.
5. You’re not sure how you feel about them yet. This will put you at some distance from them.
6. You have genuine feelings for them, but you’re afraid of scaring them away. This can lead to you erecting protective walls or walls. It can also make you hot and cold towards them.
7. Some women think men like a challenge. So, they played it a little hard to keep him interested and add some mystery.
8. Lack of communication skills. You may think you’re being sincere, but you’re holding back without realizing it.
9. Some scars from your past relationships make you feel insecure. After a breakup, take some time to heal before dating again.
10. Make sure you’re not playing games because you’re not interested in building a committed partnership. Be aware of what you are looking for. Be honest with yourself and the person you date. If you can’t be your authentic self, then you’re not ready to date. This works for both genders!

Another question for men is: How do I know if she is interested in me?

When you and your date are on the same page, there are rarely any problems. You communicate well together. You are open and honest about what you are both seeking in the partnership. There’s no fussy rulebook, no long lists, and no tedious gameplay.

The reason many people have trouble dating is that they spend more time together than necessary. They put so much effort into trying to figure out who their date really is. If a woman plays hard to get, don’t fight back. Don’t get curious because she’s acting mysterious.

If you are always looking for challenges and trying to win them over, you will continue to repeat this pattern. This is not how you want to start any relationship because it will always end the same way. Pay close attention to red flags!

Be your authentic self and lead the date. If the connection is complicated or too much work, tell them you think you’re incompatible. Don’t go on another date just because you want to know what turns them on. Stop giving energy to people who are clearly wasting your time.

Pay attention to who you are attracted to.

Some men don’t realize they have a type. They are attracted to sexy and attractive women who are also high maintenance. If things are too complicated from the start, that’s a huge red flag! Don’t fall into their game. Having chemistry with a woman is important, but it’s not everything. Be careful you don’t move too quickly by ignoring her other great qualities.

Keeping sex first will keep you stuck in a repetitive cycle. Getting sexual gratification early on can be addictive. This can cause things to fail early because there is no substance between you. Women can also become very attached when they have sex too quickly. This often gives her a false sense of security, causing the man to run in the opposite direction. If you’re looking for a potential partner, slow down.

When you’re compatible with someone, things just fall into place. The conversation is mutual, and their date won’t be about just themselves. You can feel their interest. Their eye contact and body language will tell you this. No guessing games or high expectations.

Do you often find yourself dating women who aren’t right for you? Take some time to analyze what is happening.

• “Why would I put myself in the same dead end? ”
• “I was worth more than what she gave me, so why should I stay?“
• “I don’t need to repeat this pattern of going back and forth with the person who is playing the game. ” “Is there something I don’t understand? “
• “Why am I hanging out here when she shows no sign of wanting me there? ”
• “Why am I attracted to high-maintenance women? “
• “Am I emotionally unavailable or afraid of being in a committed relationship?”
• “Why am I frustrated with women when I’m in charge of who I attract and date?”

If you want a real relationship, you have to be authentic.

In order to cultivate authentic relationships, you must show up as your true self. Real connections are not made by pretending, hiding feelings, or playing games. It requires honesty and vulnerability.

When you get to know yourself authentically, you’ll attract the right people who connect with the real you. This will provide a reciprocal basis for strengthening the relationship. A real relationship requires both parties to show their authentic selves. If you or your date can’t be yourself, then you’re not with the right person. You should feel comfortable with each other quickly.

Watch the video below. If you have any tips that may help others answer this question, please leave a comment!

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