Real talk about dating and relationships

Dating can be a complicated environment trying to figure out what to focus on. What key components need attention? How to meet quality people? If you always respect yourself and have healthy boundaries, you’ll attract the right potential partners.

Initially, there are some uncomfortable situations to deal with. However, as you learn to date, you’ll begin to see what works and what doesn’t. The key is to learn lessons quickly so you don’t repeat the negative patterns that caused you drama or heartbreak.

Here are 10 red flags to pay close attention to when dating:

#1. Their list looks like an interview.

They are controlling in their search for a partner. They have many personal issues that feel violated. Their expectations of their partners are too high. The date had a chill rather than a romantic atmosphere.

#2. They immediately talk about their exes on the first date.

Everything about their ex is discussed in a negative context. They won’t take any responsibility for their role in the breakup and blame their ex. This is a big sign that they are not over their past relationship. Being in a relationship with someone who still has a lot of anger or emotional baggage is not a good choice. They are definitely not ready for a relationship.

#3. Much of their early conversation turned to sexual topics.

They want to sleep with you immediately. This is disrespectful to you. This usually means they have sex but don’t seek a committed partnership. Don’t be seduced by their compliments on your sexiness or sexiness. Sleeping with someone too quickly usually won’t have any consequences in the long run. Some people are obsessed with sexual conquest and don’t stay long.

#4. They tell you early on that they don’t want to get married.

If marriage is important to you, you need truly hear their voices When they tell you this. Don’t go into a new scenario hoping you can change someone’s mind. This is a big mistake that usually doesn’t end well. Go away and meet people who have similar desires as you.

#5. They adamantly don’t want kids, but you do!

You must agree on this important issue. There are so many stories of men and women stuck in the wrong relationships. They hope their partners will eventually change their minds about having children. Please don’t spend too much time in this situation. This red flag is a dealbreaker and you should treat it as such.

#6. You’re interested in them, but your gut tells you to run away!

Always listen to your gut. This is the best guide you have and you need to pay attention to it. Your gut tells you something is not right. Sexual chemistry can be very misleading, causing you to fall into a dating pattern that always ends the same way. Having strong attraction is great, but it’s not enough to maintain a long-term connection. Your intuition is smart and you would be wise to follow their lead.

#7. You have very opposite views, interests, values, and morals.

Opposites do attract. However, when couples have such great differences, they rarely stay together for long. A relationship requires shared interests and a lot of things in common to last. Communication is difficult when you are constantly on opposite sides of the spectrum.

#8. They try to seduce you with exaggerated love bombing.

Excessive flattery, expensive gifts and often fancy nights out. Once they feel your love and devotion, they will start to withdraw. This is their manipulation game to keep you close. Unfortunately, they brought you into the relationship under false pretenses.

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#9. They came in very hot and very quickly.

Rumor has it they want to make it exclusive to you sooner rather than later. They said you would meet all their friends and family and move in together. They may even talk about marrying you within the first few months. There is also the tendency to overshare too much information too quickly.

When someone comes in that quickly, they usually walk away just as quickly. They initially felt all of these things, but were frightened by the speed at which they occurred and eventually ran away. I’ve been through this a few times in dating situations in the past!

#10. They don’t respect your boundaries and try to control your independence.

Everything is centered around their needs. They try to suppress your identity and make you more dependent on them. Be especially wary of people who try to manipulate your time. They may not show this to you right away, but a trained eye will be able to spot this behavior fairly quickly. If they reject your desire to spend time away from them or with friends, that’s a big sign.

It’s important to be realistic when dating.

Pay attention to your intuition from the beginning. The more dates you go on, the more you get used to certain characteristics of people. You’ll be able to tell if they’re sincere or just trying to win you over temporarily. Do they text you frequently but never set up a time to meet with you? This is an unhealthy practice that is allowed by both men and women. Don’t invest your energy into people who aren’t ready to meet you face to face.

Some people mistakenly believe that certain personality traits are green flags, but they are not.

For example:

• Confidence and arrogance.
• Protective and controlling.
• Passion and obsession.

Watching for these 10 big red flags when dating can feel overwhelming, but it’s important to stay safe.

Once you know what the red flags are, it’s easy to spot them early. If you always respect yourself and maintain boundaries, you will begin to repel negative suitors. They want someone they can manipulate easily. They have no patience in trying to change your bold mindset and self-esteem.

Don’t sleep with someone until you get to know them better. Many men and women make the mistake of jumping into bed with someone before they even know if they like them. They want instant gratification, but that rarely leads to anything substantial. If you’re looking for a committed partner, take your time. Never feel pressured to do anything before you are ready.

When you have a strong connection with your date, a gradual process occurs.

When things are in good shape, it’s naturally good for both of you. There will be no assumptions or any unreasonable expectations. There won’t be any gameplay or control issues. After every date, you will look forward to seeing each other again.

When you’re trying to determine if someone is genuinely interested, you shouldn’t have too many questions. When you have a mutual connection with someone, you can communicate well. As a couple, there won’t be any confusion about where you’re going. This is a green flag that will let you know clearly that you are moving in the right direction. You should never feel pressured to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

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