Raise your hand for a better masturbation

Underrated or overrated? Masturbation gets mixed reviews; some women think their partners can stimulate themselves better, while men prefer oral sex; and some lucky ones get to ejaculate with their partners.

What is your opinion on masturbation?

Jess, London: “Don’t use too much pressure. For me, medium to light pressure always works. Men also like to be caressed, so be sure to take it slow!”

Alice, Newcastle: “You can put handy things on fabrics like pants or trousers, or even in your pocket. It feels naughty.”

Hertfordshire Luke: “Being a little spoon is the best part of masturbation.”

Sebastian, Brighton: “It’s always 100/10 to use your other hand to firmly but gently massage the vagina. If your hands are big enough, you can hook your thumb and index finger around the base of the penis and then use your other fingers to rub the vagina and apply pressure.”

Alex, Manchester: “My opinion on masturbation is that I don’t like it – it feels like they can do it better themselves and I feel like I’m hurting them!”

She, London: “Don’t hold too tightly and don’t apply pressure. If it feels too dry, you can also use lubricant or saliva (especially if they are circumcised).”

Lyndon, Leeds: “No one can do it better than your right hand.”

Matt, Cambridge: “They are terrible.”

How to masturbate

If you’ve ever been masturbated, you can feel the distinct difference between the calm confidence of a sexy man (or goddess) and the panicked rush of a masturbation novice. If you’ve never been masturbated, but would like to do so, keep reading.

• Tip 1: Communicate and establish consent – Communication is essential for a positive sexual experience. Ask your partner what kind of pressure and speed they like. For those who have trouble expressing themselves verbally, write down your thoughts for your partner to read—it’s still sexy, I promise! It doesn’t hurt to talk throughout sex to get a sense of each other’s thoughts.

• Tip 2: Develop good hygiene habits – Make sure everything, including your hands, is clean and ready to go. We don’t want to risk getting an infection or a UTI! Although the risk of spreading a sexually transmitted infection (STI) through masturbation is relatively low, there’s nothing uncool about taking responsibility for your own health.

• Tip 3: Wrapping Up— Despite getting tested for STDs and showering, some abusers and victims still feel more comfortable using protection. Condoms, latex sheets, and gloves can reduce anxiety and aid cleanup.

• Tip 4: Hold the penis – You and your partner can sit, lie down, or both. With your comfortable hand, grasp the shaft of the penis and the circumcision site (where the foreskin is if your partner is circumcised) and stroke up and down. Start with gentle, slow movements.

• Tip 5: Use your whole hand – Try running your fingertips along the base of your penis, cupping your testicles with your palm, and tickling your perineum (or perineum – the area between the testicles and anus). My personal favorite is rolling the ball of your hand under your thumb over the tip of your penis to stimulate the glans. If you like to get really teasing, you can use an ostrich feather tickler to stimulate your penis.

• Tip 6: Of course, why use lubricant?! – While saliva can reduce friction during masturbation, sexual lubricants are designed to last longer without drying up. The thicker the better, generally, and if you’re preparing for oral sex, then I recommend passion fruit flavored lube.

• Tip 7: Try different grips—Once you’ve determined your partner’s ideal grip, try stroking up and down with different grips. Try twisting motions to stimulate the penis in different ways. Gradually find what works for everyone!

• Tip 8: Use your hands – Get your other hand involved to stimulate more of the penis surface area. The recipient will experience more pleasure, the penis will look bigger, and boost confidence. It’s a win-win!

• Tip 9: Eye contact— Communicate with your partner in more ways than just verbal. Intimate eye contact can add to the tension and be very sexy. Don’t go Kubrick-style and stare; that can be a little off-putting.

Level up your amateur masturbation game

• Through fabric – Are you confident with the basic moves? Start foreplay or solo sex by teasing your partner through their clothes to create friction similar to rubbing. Teasing your partner through their pants, underwear or pockets will drive your partner crazy and make them feel irresistible.
• Try edge processing – What is edging, you might ask? It’s a super sexy technique that involves delaying ejaculation from masturbation, bringing your partner or yourself to the brink of orgasm, then reducing the intensity and starting over, and adding variety to your sex life (because believing that sex is only about penis in vagina is outdated) or combining all three. Edging can be used as a joint exercise in endurance training, helping your partner last longer before ejaculating.
• Invest in some toys – Don’t deny it until you’ve tried it, male sex toys can benefit all partners, penis and vagina owners. Fleshlights can help couples who have difficulty with PIV (penis-in-vagina) intercourse. Whether you’re struggling with postpartum issues, endometriosis, vaginismus, or menstruation in the bedroom, male masturbators can be a fun way to navigate through the sexual complexities of your life. Mutual masturbation can be more than just manual! The Clutch Vibrating Massager is the curious man’s first step into the world of male sex toys.

Use these cock rings to help your partner stand at attention; combined with the rim, the cock rings create an endurance training combo that will keep your partner hard for longer, especially if they have trouble maintaining a firm erection.

Want to tease your partner in another way? Giving a plush eye mask will enhance the sensation and excitement you give your partner by dulling their vision.

All hands on cock

The point is, humans are holistic; some may like to have help, while others would rather masturbate alone. Communicative, safe, consensual sex is always exciting, and if you find yourself struggling in the bedroom, don’t be shy about using some sex toys to add novelty to the mix. Fleshlight Either it works for you, or you’ll laugh! Laughing together as a couple can help build bonding, increase feelings of love, and improve feelings of well-being. Have fun!

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