One in four Americans hides death toll from partner:

New research shows that one in four Americans admits they keep a secret from their partner.

A survey of 2,000 sexually active adults found that 26 per cent of romantic partners admitted their partners didn’t know their true “number” – the number of people they’d been intimate with.

While the majority of respondents said this was because their partner never asked (60%), a further 16% admitted they underestimated their numbers when asked.

While most people in relationships know how many people their partner has been with, one in nine people question whether their partner is lying.

So what might the real number be? A survey conducted by Talker Research for LELO found that the average American has been intimately involved with 14 people.

Two-thirds think the “number of people” you have a serious relationship with is important information, and another 56% say it’s crucial to know even if you’re only casually intimate with someone.

Eight in 10 singles claim they are honest with their partner about the number of lovers they have been with (83%), but few want to know how many lovers their partner has had (62%).

They may soon have a chance to put it all into practice: More singles are interested in serious intimacy next year than last year (40% vs. 33%).

Reflecting on their sex lives, one in five respondents felt embarrassed by the number of people they were intimate with.

While a similar proportion of people want to be close to more people (19%), a quarter want the opposite.

“We believe in the power of embracing your sexuality and shamelessly taking care of your own needs,” said LELO Chief Marketing Officer Luka Matutinović. “Every journey of self-discovery and joy is essential to intimacy. Important. By tuning in to the things that bring you joy, you can unlock deeper connections and more fulfilling experiences. Remember, there’s no shame in exploring your needs and discovering new dimensions of joy.”

One in eight people are currently unhappy with their sex life, and this has a lot to do with timing, with 42% saying their sex life is not as active as they would like.

Finding time is a challenge for 21% of people, and the average American says they last had sex 10 days ago.

Just because they’re doing it doesn’t mean they’re having the best time, though.

24% said they hadn’t had “good” sex in at least a month – including 20% ​​who were in a committed relationship.

While the majority rated their most recent love interest as an A or higher (55%), another 31% rated their most recent sex act as average, in the BC range.

Perhaps embarrassing moments such as “when I fell off the bed,” “he had a nosebleed,” or “falling asleep during the meeting” also influenced when respondents recalled “good” sex.

However, having these conversations is never easy: one in seven people wouldn’t be honest with their partner if they weren’t happy with their sex life.

More than a quarter of respondents believe receiving feedback from a partner after sex is offensive behavior (27%), and 23% said their experience after a partner told them they were dissatisfied That’s it.

Some of the hardest feedback to deal with is that their partner is “tired of doing the same thing,” is “doing it better,” or that they are “not living up to expectations.”

To protect their partner’s feelings, 59% admitted they withheld feedback on their post-sex satisfaction.

“Open and honest communication about sexual needs is critical to a thriving relationship,” says Matutinovich. “Introducing sex toys can be a powerful way to explore desires and deepen your emotional connection. Don’t hesitate to start these conversations—it can bring new levels of excitement and satisfaction to you and your partner.”

Feedback received from respondents after sex

• Say my voice is too loud
• I don’t move enough with him.
• I’m not flexible enough
• tired of doing the same thing
• they have to do all the work
• I need to do more. more participation
• I’ve had better
• It means I didn’t hold on long enough
• I lived up to expectations
• i need more kisses
• too many teeth
• Be more intimate and engage first
• Not paying enough attention to details during foreplay

Awkward intimacy

• Unannounced knock on our front door
• when i fell off the bed
• First time, in the car
• Can’t stand on it, my legs will cramp
• When my kids walk in on us in the middle of the night
• Ex-girlfriend passed by
• when i giggle during sex
• When I was swinging, my feet got caught in the straps
• Found out I was on my period during foreplay
• parents walk in
• This person acts like they are the greatest and they do nothing but lie there and let you do all the work
• He has a nosebleed
• She found another girl’s personal belongings on my bed
• When I slept with a guy I just met, he told me he loved me during sex
• Wear lingerie and arrange a romantic evening for them without giving the same energy
• when i fall asleep in the encounter
• Play Call of Duty immediately after asking
• One day I called someone by another name
• When I was invited to be a “mistress” without knowing it

Investigation method:

Talker Research conducted a survey of 2,000 sexually active Americans; the survey was commissioned by LELO and administered and conducted online by Talker Research from September 19-23, 2024.