Navigating the Painful Sex: A Guide to Vulva Owner

Posted by PSEDEN

2025-03-15

On 2025-03-15

Are you considered sexual pain normal or should the gender be harmed? If so, you are definitely not alone, but I’m here to tell you that painful sexuality is abnormal and should not be tolerated. However, sexual pain is very common, and as many as 40% of people who experience this experience do not seek medical care. In this blog, I will break down what exactly is painful sexual behavior for vulvars, what causes it and what can be done. Before we start, just a brief clarification – sexual pain is inherently very broad and complex, and can behave differently between people. If you have any pain in sex, I hope this blog post is confident to do something and take back your sex life because you deserve a satisfying and enjoyable sex life if you want it.

Term breakdown about pain

First, I want to accurately describe what I mean when saying “sexual pain.” I mean genital pain or pain derived from external genitals (including vulva, vulva, vagina, labia, mabusia and labia minora) or internal genitals (including vagina, cervix, ovaries, ovaries and uterus). Muscular educament is a medical term for penetrating sexual pain that can occur before, during or after sexual intercourse. Vulvar pain is a medical term for pain in the vulvar area and it varies from person to person and depends on the cause. Your pain may come and go, remain relatively stable, or only burst when touching or inspiring the area. It can also occur outside the area where sexual activity/touched. You may experience burning, soreness, tingling, primitive or sharp/knife-like pain. If you experience any type of sexual pain, it is important to have a specific situation with your doctor.
One of the biggest details to consider is what pain is caused? If you are not sure how to describe this, it may be helpful to be familiar with your genitals. Although it may feel uncomfortable at first, grab a handheld mirror and look there. You can also print out the anatomical table and try to identify your own parts. This can help you to be more clear with your doctor and other professionals where the exact pain is described. * If you become self-conscious or ashamed when looking at your genitals, challenge this! Genitals come in many different shapes and sizes, and they are all beautiful. You can record where this shame might originate, where it learns, and how it affects your diary. A sex therapist can help you solve this problem.

There are some other things to consider before visiting a doctor about painful sexual behavior:

Is the pain constant or coming and going?
When does the pain begin? If it does stop, when usually when?
When did you notice the pain first?
Will you feel pain if you insert your finger or tampon?
Does pain occur every time you have sex or only in some cases?

Potential causes of pelvic pain in vulva owners

As I mentioned before, sexual pain is complicated and there are many things that can contribute to it. It is also important to note that there may be no one cause, but several reasons, all of which cause pain. It may feel overwhelming, but don’t be afraid! This is treatable. Understanding the underlying causes of pain is an important step towards being able to heal it. Here are some of the many potential reasons:

Lack of enough lubrication – Foreplay is important! Make sure your body is ready to penetrate and lubricate fully. If your body itself does not produce enough lubrication, use lubricant! Read our blog for more information on which type of lubricant is best for you
Pelvic floor muscle
Inflammation, infections and skin diseases
Hormone changes – including hormone contraceptives, endometriosis treatment, ovarian removal, breast cancer medication, acne medications and menopause
Endometriosis
Injury or trauma in affected areas
The history of sexual trauma
anxiety
Negative thoughts about sexual or sexual behavior
Negative body image