My fiancé wants to wear her dead husband’s wedding ring

She wanted to say “I do” – while still insisting on “I did”.

A bride-to-be’s unconventional respect for her late husband sparked emotional fireworks before the ceremony began.

A 30-year-old groom shared him last week on Reddit’s notorious “I’m My Hole” forum, who locked the trumpet on details of a specific wedding day: Her plan to wear her late husband’s wedding ring on a chain around her neck when knotted this fall.

The poster admits: “There’s one thing that keeps me eating.”

The woman Emily’s formerly married Tyler, who died in a tragic car accident five years ago. The couple got married in their 20s, Reddit wrote, “It’s really in love.”

He explained: “At first, she was very open to it and I respect that. I knew I wasn’t her ‘first great love’ and I was happy with it. I’m still, most of it.”

He continued: “For years, I have supported her through sad moments, anniversary, random waves of sadness.”

“She still visited his grave on his birthday, she put a box of his stuff in our closet,” Reddit user noted, and he “never touched it.”

But her fiancé was shocked when Emily revealed that she planned to wear Tyler’s ring around her neck (Carrie Bradshaw’s bride of “Sex and City”.

He wrote: “She said she wouldn’t be where she is now without the loss, and she felt it would make sense to load that part of the story into this chapter.”

“I didn’t say much at the time because I didn’t know how to respond. But the more I sat, the more it bothered me. So I finally told her how I felt.”

He admitted to her that it was hard to “wrap my head around her idea of ​​wearing another man’s wedding ring, even if he was gone.”

He continued: “I told her that it made me feel like I shared the most important day of my life with someone who wasn’t here. I said it made me feel like the second place.”

Emily was not excited.

“She became very quiet and told me that she wasn’t ‘choosing him” rather than me, and that she was allowed to remember her past while still moving forward.”

“She said sadness is not the door you close the door – it’s just a part of who you are. I get it. I really.”

He added: “But at the same time, I don’t think I think this day (our day) is about the life we ​​built together, not the life she lost.”

Reddit users are largely in the groom’s corner, and the top commenter (also lost a spouse and remarried) frankly said: “Your wedding is inherently implicit, implicit, and in fact about your relationship, her late husband shouldn’t be a part of it.”

They added: “My concern for you is that she is an apology to keep moving forward with you.”

“I don’t want to be on the receiving end either.”

Another user raised a more diplomatic tone: “I strongly recommend couples to consult and have a fair third party provide this question for you both.

“If she wears a ring, you’ll get hurt. If she doesn’t wear a ring, she’ll get hurt. This can cause resentment from the start.”

Others suggest compromise-like lighting candles in Taylor’s memory, rather than “walking back to the aisle” in his ring.

“You’re not wrong, nor is she,” wrote one Reddit. “You just have to find a different compromise.”