Just a threesome for two people… and sex

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When it comes to sexual fantasies, threesomes are always in the top five most popular sexual activities that people want to try. The idea of ​​having an extra set of…whatever…can be very exciting.

However…

Threesomes aren’t easy to navigate—and I’m not just talking about finding someone you feel compatible with and can trust (that’s another story). Most people feel deep insecurities and a surge of emotions at the thought of someone else touching their partner.

While a threesome may sound like a dream, it can seriously damage a relationship if it’s not done in a very safe and healthy way.

But thankfully, there is a solution—sex toys! This article will also discuss other points, such as how to talk to your partner and how to handle other issues that may arise.

Using sex toys during a threesome

With so many options on the market, there are tons of sex toys that can give you the “illusion” of another person—or at least the pleasure of another person.

• Sex Machine Allows one person to be penetrated while performing oral sex on a partner. Or you can do double penetration. The upside is that these machines are very powerful and won’t break down like regular sex toys. The downside is that any decent machine won’t be cheap.
• bonus – Some sex machines come with attachments that allow you to attach a masturbator to the end (such as the Fleshlight).
• Dildo Can give the same pleasure as a sex machine, but you have to have at least one hand free to operate the toy. They’ll be much cheaper and maybe allow your partner to feel more comfortable with things like double penetration (especially if they’ve never done it before).
• Vibrator A step up from dildos because they… well… vibrate! But like dildos, if you can find one Push in with suction cupyou can fix the toy to a non-porous wall or floor to free your hands for other things.

• Eye mask are a great addition because they help you let your imagination run free and think about the third person there.
• Anal Toys Also available (such as anal plugs or Prostate Massager), but make sure they have a flared base so things don’t slide off and get lost.
• Vibrating nipple clamps can give you It feels like someone is playing with your breasts while your partner works magic elsewhere.
• If you have a lot of money, you can even buy one Sex doll!

So, you see, you can bridge the gap between fantasies simply by adding sex toys to please another part of your body, without having to invite another warm body into the bedroom.

However, some toy brands have gone high-tech and introduced apps that allow someone to control the toy from a distance, or use Bluetooth to control the toy nearby. If you and your lover agree to hand over control of your sex toys to someone else (and own them elsewhere), this can also be a sexy option.

idea – Play some porn in the background so it sounds like someone is there. Might be fun for some people.

Potential Problems with 3P

The biggest problem you may face is that your partner finds sex toys threatening (Sorry, guys, but it’s usually men.) They feel like a passionate partner in bed somehow lowers their value as a man or their performance value. Or they think their partner would enjoy sex toys more than they do.

But that’s all it is…it’s just a sex toy. It’s a machine. A device.

Remind your partner that you don’t get emotionally attached to metal and plastic. It certainly doesn’t make them any less valuable. Furthermore (if we go with the cisgender heterosexual stereotype) if it’s two women and one man, does having one more male toy make the women less valuable? Of course not!

That’s like asking if you’ll ever love your coffee maker.

…Okay, maybe this isn’t the best example (as I’m guessing some of you are), but you get the idea.

Talk with your partner. Try the toy on a small scale at first. Communicate how you feel during and especially after play.

The next question was budget – but that was easy.

With so many sex toys available at all price points, you’re sure to find a toy that fits your budget. Just make sure the toy is made of body-safe materials, has a decent return policy or warranty, and read the reviews!

But if you really want a toy and it’s really expensive, wait until the holidays or watch the website for sales. Lovense always has some sort of promotion going on.

Finally, figuring out how/where/when to use sex toys during sex can be tricky. Take your time. And communicate. Yes, I’m going to use this figurative dead horse and beat everyone over the head with it until it sinks into their minds forever… talk to each other! But do it in a gentle, supportive way that encourages the other person to keep trying and experimenting.

Final Thoughts on 3P

Remember, don’t skimp on foreplay, and keep plenty of lubricant (water-based) on hand. With these, you can enjoy the pleasure of a threesome without having to invite others!

How are you, dear readers? Do you have any other suggestions for making a threesome with just two people a huge success?