How to save your important person’s name on your phone

Are you calling “Boobear” or “John Hinge”?

Whether it’s a cute (or maybe embarrassing) nickname or their full legal name, your partner’s contact name in your phone gives you a deep dive into your relationship.

According to relationship experts, this is what the nickname means.

“Because the names on our phones are visual symbols of our partners and remind us of their relationships, using personal jokes or nicknames can reflect deeper or more intimate connections,” psychotherapist Eloise Skinner told the Independent.

“If our partners use our full name like any other connection, we may feel like they won’t attribute the extra value to our communication,” Skinner said.

But, she warned, that may not be true for all couples.

Some actual people save all contacts under their legal name, which can be a huge help in emergencies.

Laura learned this lesson in a difficult way.

When she fell and broke her arm, the communications manager rode a bike one day.

A group of strangers who witnessed the incident rushed towards her and quickly grabbed her phone and called her to contact her urgently.

The problem is that she borrowed her husband’s phone to use his Apple Music account and didn’t know what name her spouse used for her on her phone.

“I didn’t list my name by my name, so I went on to list all the names I was suffering on the floor,” she reported to the Independent.

She got rid of everything she could think of, including “snuggf – k”.

That was when she “heard laughter”.

Finally, she learns that she is just saved as “My Girl” – a lovely fact that she only learns after she breaks her bones and is publicly embarrassed.

While it may not always be that dramatic, the partner may have fewer contact names than you think.

“Most of the time, these details are quite private to us,” Georgina-Sturmer, a registered therapist, told the independent.

“This gives us permission to use any type of terminology we want – fun, gentle, professional, cold.” But, she admits: “More and more people are entering the public domain name.”

If you link iMessage to a work laptop, text from “Sugar Lips” may pop up when sharing the screen with colleagues. If you drive and sync your phone to GPS, you can announce the news that all passengers have heard of “Mayor Pound”.

Oops.

However, for more pessimistic reasons, some people may insist on saving a person’s real name, or simply not be able to save a number.

“When we take such a measure, we are incorporating the protection element,” Sturmer noted. “After all, if we save someone’s name, then if the relationship doesn’t resolve, we may need to change or delete it.”

This leads to the idea that people’s connection names may not be related to their creative style but to their attachment style.

Sturmer explains that people with “insecurity” are often “focused on seeking assurance and feelings”, so using “lovely nicknames or jokes” may be a way to connect with that person.

She noted in the publication that those who “avoid unsafe” might “keep their names simple, brief and professional” to make them more “disdainful and distance themselves from those around them.”

“Distance helps protect them from their fears of rejection if they show that they care about others.”

Apart from what name or nickname pops up on your phone, another factor that allows you to read about a relationship is how often it appears on the screen.