How to massage – romantic touch and erotic ending

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A nice foot massage or attentive back rub is like the crack cocaine of a relationship. But what about birthdays, anniversaries, or other special occasions? Sometimes you want to give your lover more than just a quick rub. In this article, learn how to massage (a decent one) and useful, erotic techniques that will help you make your partner melt into the sheets.

Types of massage

There are lots of different styles – from hot stone massage to shiatsu. However, what you’re going for is closer to a gentle, erotic or romantic Swedish massage, maybe with a little aromatherapy (depending on whether you make your own essential oils) and a happy ending (if you choose).

Swedish massage is very common; you can see it in spas and gyms, etc. It is based on Western ideas of anatomy and health, rather than the energy-based Asian school.

It uses five strokes:

1. Flick (Long, smooth strokes)
2. Kneading method (knead, roll and lift)
3. friction (Wring out or use small circular motions)
4. tapping (percussion)
5. vibration (shaking and rocking motion)

Most people stick to 1 and 2 when massaging their partner, but 3 is worth investigating as well. Don’t try 4 or 5 (especially 5) without training—they’re also what you’ll do. no Paired with a romantic massage.

How to massage – create the atmosphere!

Make sure the area is private and (if possible) temperature control – Around 25 degrees Celsius is a good temperature. You don’t want the person to be too hot or too cold. However, even at a comfortable temperature, being naked can still feel cold, so bring some warm, soft blankets.

The music should be soft and without lyrics. Why? We want people to relax, let their minds wander, and feel free to get high – without having to think about what’s being sung in the background.

Ambient Music Nature sounds, yoga music, or ambient ambience are all great. If all else fails, type “massage/relaxation/stress relief music” into YouTube.

The candles are perfect – especially tea lights (they don’t fall over and come in a variety of scents). If you’re worried about fire hazard, electric candles will work too. If you’re lucky enough to have a dimmer, just turn it down low.

Bonus Tips: Start by giving them a warm shower or bath. Massaging into clean skin will work better, and they’ll also feel relaxed from the heat.

Choosing the right engine oil

There is no “wrong choice” – I would probably say that “warming” and “cooling” oils should be avoided as they may cause allergic reactions and are not good for a woman’s private parts.

That being said, There are many to choose from: Apricot, almond, avocado, camellia, coconut, grapeseed, hemp, jojoba, rosehip seed, safflower, soy, sunflower, walnut, etc.

notes: almond is the most popular because it is smooth and oily but does not absorb quickly.

Also, don’t be afraid to add a few drops of essential oils to heighten their senses…

• Rose, Jasmine, Ylang-Ylang Good for romance and relaxation
• Lemons, limes, oranges, and grapefruits Invigorating
• Lavender It is a universal magic oil with countless benefits

safety warning: Everyone’s body is different, and some people may have an allergic reaction while others may not. Always do an allergy spot test before applying essential oils all over your body.

However, if you don’t want to do it yourself, you can also buy some from your local drugstore, sex shop, or online.

Put Them In Place

You’ll need a stable but comfortable surface for your partner to lie on – a bed or table will work (even better if you can actually get/borrow/buy a massage table).

All those spa ads have a girl with her head tilted to the side with a smile on her face. But, after a while, she’s going to get really uncomfortable. And, most of us don’t have a massage table in our garage.

You can have them rest their head on their arms, or place a pillow under their chest and one under their forehead (or even roll up a towel to make a loop for them to rest their face in while they’re prone).

How to massage – practical tips

1. Walk slowly.

If you can only remember one thing, remember this.

Seriously. Just like public speaking, you think you have a decent speaking speed, but you end up just darting through like a hummingbird. If you think you speak slowly, slow down. Taking your time also allows you to focus on your technique and your partner’s feelings. This is key to a sensual massage.

2. This is a marathon, not a sprint.

If you want to turn your partner into sex clay while you are doing a full body massage, you should At least one hourIf you are only exercising your feet and back, do it for at least 30 minutes.

3. Always start with a gentle touch.

Nothing is more uncomfortable and demoralizing than someone who thinks they are a deep tissue masseuse, pinching and poking with elbows and such.

Only when you have made them feel a noticeable tremor in their body and have made them completely relaxed, can you Gradually Increase the stress. But remember, you are not trying to do an intense training session. The stress should be high at its peak, but still enjoyable.

hint: Check in with your partner from time to time to see if they like the tension.

4. Maintain equality.

For example, don’t spend 5 minutes working on one leg and 1 minute working on the other leg. Keep your attention evenly distributed.

5. Pay attention to your partner

If they look like they’re having a good time, keep going. If they make a frowny face, grunt in pain, or pull away from your hand, adjust what you’re doing (because you’re hurting them). Don’t be afraid to ask them directly if they enjoyed it or how they’d like things to change.

6. Heat the oil first

Never apply massage oil directly to your skin. First, apply it to your hands, let the natural heat warm it, and then spread it evenly over the area of ​​your body you are massaging.

7. Body Part Order

Generally, it’s best to go in this order: back, neck, and back of legs. Flip over. Front of legs, feet, arms, hands, breasts/chest (second to last), and then genitals, which is the grand finale. You can tease a little near the end, but starting the fun too early can be off-putting.

8. Pay attention to neglected areas.

Areas like the scalp, earlobes, behind or around the knees, wrists, chin, temples, bridge of the nose, etc. These areas are not always covered in a full body massage, but they can make for a great massage experience.

For example, if someone often clenches their teeth, they might love it if you pay attention to the jaw joint. Or, if they use a computer a lot, their wrists might need a massage. If they wear glasses, a nose bridge is necessary.

Besides feeling good, it shows them that you pay attention to detail.

notes: If you are going to massage your scalp, do it before putting oil on your hands. Or wash the oil off your hands.

Massage different body parts

This will be a long article to describe how to do Each One, so I would say, “Check out YouTube” or other online videos. There will be a lot of them that will let you see for yourself what you can do.

I will During a romantic massage, don’t forget to kiss, lick, say sweet words, and tease them more in the places they like.

Optional happy ending

As for the “happy” ending part (if that’s what they want), here are a few suggestions…

1. For women only

Start by massaging the area around her labia. Occasionally “touch” her clitoris or other super sensitive areas. Next, start caressing her labia. If you have a free hand, be sure to caress other erogenous zones — kissing and licking works just as well.

Gradually massage her clitoris. Then, if she likes penetration, slide two fingers into her vagina and begin massaging her G-spot. Let her have an orgasm (or two) and let her relax as she relaxes.

2. For men only

The same “genital foreplay” applies. Don’t massage the penis directly. Instead, massage the groin, testicles, and perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus). If they like anal play, teasing around the rim can be nice.

When it’s time to insert the penis, hold the base with your hand and gently pull toward the tip. Hold the base with your other hand and repeat. Alternate for a minute or two. Then, if his penis is hard enough, stroke in the opposite direction, from tip to base.

If you’re a generalist, continue to keep one hand on his penis and gently massage the perineum with the other (this can lead to a more intense orgasm).

notes: If he’s ready to cum, but doesn’t want to, ask him to breathe deeply and slow down your strokes. However, if he’s ready to cum, pick a move he seems to like and stick with it. Don’t change moves midway through an orgasm or you might ruin it.

Conclusion idea

Remember that not all massages need to end with an orgasm. Also, it’s important to keep communicating during the massage to make sure they like what you’re doing or that you can change something to enhance their pleasure. And, never expect to orgasm right after a massage. That’s not cool.

In the end, like so many things… practice makes perfect.

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Know of any other tips that can take your erotic massage to the next level? Share them in the comments!