How to love a Scorpio without getting burned, cursed, or left

Of all the zodiac signs, few are more maligned or misunderstood than Scorpio.

Scorpio is the most powerful sign among the twelve signs. They love with their heart and hold on tightly. They won’t settle for less naked, bloody intensity and will go to great lengths to preserve the sanctity of their relationship.

Golden retrievers, they are not.

Loving a Scorpio is not for the flippant or faint of heart, as evidenced by the fact that Google searches for “how to love a Scorpio” have jumped 359% in the past month, and November also features Married Scorpio Support Day, celebrated (or commiserated) on November 18th.

Dating a Scorpio

Magnetic AF, Scorpios are ruled by Pluto, the planet of intensity and intimacy, death and transformation.

“Scorpios don’t do anything halfway, especially love. Scorpio lovers can be passionate, loyal, and emotionally intelligent, but also very private, territorial, and intense,” Gamblizard astrologer Ashley Boyd told The Washington Post.

She notes that Scorpios build relationships through observation, loyalty testing, and low-key trauma bonding. Scorpios have excellent intuition and can make others feel “seen” in a detached and terrifying way.

“Scorpios get along best with those signs who can convey emotional depth and stay grounded when situations get intense,” Boyd says.

She points out that water signs Cancer and Pisces can recognize Scorpio’s feelings without having to vocalize or analyze them.

Scorpio Relationship Compatibility

At the same time, Virgo and Capricorn are right to have the patience and calmness that Scorpio needs and works to generate on his own.

“These partners don’t try to change or explain them away—they provide space for Scorpios to transform and grow. When Scorpios feel that love is safe, they can show their deepest devotion.”

To the haters and slanderersI pointed to Elizabeth Taylor’s epic response when asked if she would marry her long-dead Scorpio ex-husband Richard Burton, The third time.

“A moment!”

Read on for some advice on how to argue with a Scorpio, and remember that if they’re too much for you, you’ll never be able to satisfy them.

Give their privacy sacred status

Although we all have many people, Scorpios prefer to hide their own people away from the sun and other people’s eyes.

“Scorpios guard their inner world very carefully. They need space and time to understand their emotions before they can express them to others. When you respect this boundary, they will feel safe enough to open up on their own terms,” ​​Boyd shares.

She points out that you should never force a Scorpio to reveal their feelings/motivations or explain their actions.

“The more you allow them to protect parts of themselves, the more willing they are to reveal their true heart and depth behind their poker face.”

Like secrets, space is something Scorpio needs but struggles to deliver. They often expect their partners to do their bidding (if you don’t, they’ll think you’re dead or cheating), while they themselves enjoy freezing the shit out of you for long periods of time.

Processing Intensity Through Emotional Bases

“Scorpios experience emotional depth in a powerful way, which can lead to sudden changes in their emotional state. They need a partner who doesn’t match their storminess but who can stabilize them,” Boyd explains.

She shared that the best way to deal with this emotional weather is to stay calm and create a sense of safety for them.

“Speak slowly, listen fully, and avoid impulsive reactions.”

Showing a Scorpio that you can hold space for their emotions while keeping your own in check is the ultimate test of love.

Pass the loyalty test

Boyd points out that Scorpios are (whispering) been watching If you will, value actions over words, over sweet words.

“They will pay attention to whether you are consistent in what you say and do, how you talk about others, and what you do when they are not around. Their observations are not motivated by a need to control but rather by a need to know that they are emotionally safe.”

She shared that the best way to build trust with a Scorpio is to walk the talk, be reliable in action, and be honest in communication.

“They have a great ability to notice when people are gossiping or telling half-truths. When your words and actions are consistent over a long period of time, Scorpios will let their guard down.”

In the words of astrologer Spence Taylor, “Scorpios believe that trust is like car insurance and needs to be constantly renewed.”

Therefore, winning the trust of a Scorpio is not a long-term goal, but a daily test, think Sisyphus and stones, never completed and never enough.

unified exploration

“Scorpio is the sign of change,” Boyd said.

Likewise, Scorpions need partners who can go deep, support their growth and evolve with them.

“See change as a unifying quest that replaces current fear-based understandings. As a team, you should work together on all major life changes and challenges inside and outside the relationship.”

When growing together, Scorpio love is a stable, renewable resource.

Astrologer Reda Wigle researches and respectfully reports on planetary configurations and their effects on each sign. Her horoscopes are a blend of history, poetry, pop culture and personal experiences. To book a reading, visit her website.