How to know if your partner is planning to cheat

After being single for a while, I noticed some warning signs that someone might be trying to cheat on their partner – with me.

From entering my DMs with fire emojis, to inviting me to their “boys lunch” or checking in on my current dating status, there are some early signs of deviousness.

But it wasn’t until I asked my Instagram followers to share their cheating stories that I realized how common this phenomenon is. We’re not talking about the usual suspects—creepy bosses, crooked financial bros, gamers. These are ordinary people like you or me.

I share a lot of their stories on Instagram and my DMs are crazy.

Suddenly, everyone became a little paranoid. I’ve had girls send me pictures of their boyfriends and asking if I know them or if they’ve ever DM’d me.

I’ve had super sleuths tell me about the cunning tactics they use to catch their partners. I had some men share their stories of how they caught their wives, and this is what shocked me.

Cheating does not discriminate.

I know men often get a bad rap for not being able to “keep it in their pants,” but it turns out women are just as bad.

Take this story for example.

One man wrote: “I found the next morning’s pill wrapper in the bin outside. It came from a chemist in another suburb one morning while I was away at work.” Savage. .

There are also partners who turn into James Bond when they intuitively feel that their partner is cheating.

One man wrote that he thought his wife might be unfaithful to her boss, so he asked her to go out and enjoy a morning alone while he looked after their children. What she didn’t know was that he had placed an old cellphone in her car and had it recording. “She came back and said, ‘Thank you so much, this is just what I needed,'” he said. “I grabbed the phone and heard her talking to him about his fuck.” ” He also revealed that his wife is now his ex-wife.

Oft.

Another man found his best mate in bed with his new wife while the kids were at home. He said he discovered they had been doing this for a year and a half, so he had his daughter’s DNA tested – “assuming the marriage had only lasted four months”.

Another man who had the misfortune to be the “other” in the cheating scene wrote: “She got caught while her husband was using her old phone and her Facebook was still logged in. I sent her a message on Messenger I received the news and received a call from him, thinking she was single, so I was surprised.”

Then came the “I’m not gay, but…” confession, as one woman wrote, “The male colleagues I work with and I hook up every other night with men who are married, have kids, and girlfriends.” . They meet on Grindr, no profile picture, just an open door and a closed policy. Some people just want a blowjob, others want more.” This is surprising to some, but talk to your gay friends and they’ll have a lot to say about straight married people who “will do it.” Men’s stories.

And then there’s the story of revenge.

One man said: “I found out my girlfriend was cheating on me so I hired a chaperone. I made my wife a bowl of popcorn before she got home from get off work so she could see us. Damn it!”

As I read message after message from my followers, all filled with the same horrific cheating stories, I realized why the waiting lists for couples therapy are so long. Everyone carries their partner around like a rabbit in heat.

So here are some warning signs I learned from this experience to recognize if your partner is trying to cheat:

1. If your gut tells you they’re cheating, they usually are. Annoyingly, our intuitions are rarely wrong.

2. If they follow a lot of women in bikinis on Instagram, there’s a good chance they’re also sending fire emojis to those girls in their DMs. The amount I get from men who have partners in their profile pictures is staggering, I’m a 5 compared to the 10+ they also follow.

3. Keep an eye on your friends. Many infidelity stories involve mutual friends of the couple rather than strangers.

4. Men brag and women are very secretive about their cheating habits. They brag a lot. So if your man cheats on you, his friends may know about it. Ask around.

5. Cell phones hide many sins. If your partner suddenly becomes very protective of their phone, get curious.

So word to the wise – remember, infidelity is a slippery slope. A lost eye can cause a lot of trouble. Divorce is expensive, and revenge is often cold.

So, dear naughty people, please proceed with caution. I promise you, no shameless wallowing is worth the drama it brings.