How to keep it hot when you are together forever | Sex

Long -term relationships can be the best type of magic. They are comfortable, comforting and affirmative wildly when you are with the right person. Whether you are monogamous or open, married or simply committed, living under the same roof or the same ocean aside, and with children or not – long -term love takes work. And no, not the exhausting type of work, but rather the genre that requires a stretch of our imagination and a desire to continue to choose our partner day after day. Because one thing that all relationships have in common, no matter what it looks like the surface of things is that burning passion cannot keep in our hands, each passion tends to evolve. Sometimes it decreased. Sometimes it’s a nap. But that doesn’t mean it’s gone.

So how do you turn on the flame when your shared browser history is 90% memes of cats and air fries?

So happy that you asked. Here, we offer you 10 experienced ways to keep this proverbial spark alive, no matter how long you were joined on the hip.

1. Plan sex

Yes, I know – Sex scheding sounds as sexy as dental silk. But listen to me: know that you have the time you have time just for privacy can be hot in itself. Anticipation is the preliminaries, after all. And if you want to set up the bet, remember to add a twist-do it on the theme, have fun with it, be silly. “Only the night of the hands”, for example, or “fantasy of Mile -Haut” or “no conversation, just moaning” – whatever your engine, Nam Sayin ‘?

2. Create a list “Yes, no, maybe”

Consider it as your sexy menu. You write each of the things you would like to try (yes), things that are curious to you (perhaps) and your hard limits (no). Then exchange lists and discuss – ideally on wine or while wearing only socks. It is informative, fun and could simply present the sequence of fetish or exhibition of the unknown feet of your partner. After all, you learn something new every day.

3. Try the 6 seconds kiss

This is simple but extremely effective. Egroach every day for six seconds. Not a tingling. Not a smooch-on-the-go. A full -bodied, melting and touching the soul. It is long enough to arouse something primary but short enough not to interrupt your Slack meeting of the working day. And if you have abandoned the MOU (congratulations) meetings, make seven seconds, or eight or new. See what’s going on.

4. Send Hawt messages – to blue

Remember when you send SMS to your partner, your stomach does backflips? It’s time to bring this energy back. Send a sexy photo (yes, even if it’s just the collarbone and the candle), a dirty phrase or a voice note whispering what you would do if they were at home. The element of surprise can be a hell of an excitement. Sexting is an art form, so don’t be afraid to be creative.

5. Do something new together – next to the room

Trying new things together establishes connection and revolves excitement. Take a dance lesson, hike somewhere you have never been, make sushi, attend a life drawing session (additional points if you are the model). When our brains light up with the novelty of the strangers – what can guess? Our libido often follows.

6. become nostalgic

Recreate your first appointment. Or this bizarre Motel test you are still talking about. Or when you are excited at Ikea and bought a launch pillow that you now call “the incident”. Revisiting memories can arouse emotions – and hormones – which were present the first time. Bonus: you will probably laugh a lot, and laughter is even better than the lubricant (ok very well, let’s call it a tie).

7. Introduce power games (slightly, or not so slightly)

If your couple is looking at this way (or could), plan to be silent in domination, submission, role play – whatever mature, and also consensual. Even if you don’t make a full dungeon, just “being in charge” for the night can make things happen. Who does the rules? Who breaks them? Who is spanking for forgetting the word safe? The possibilities are really endless.

8. Practice “naked time” with no expectations

No pressure to be performed. No objective of having an orgasm. Just stay naked together – read, cuddle, speak and sip tea like some nudist philosophers. Physical proximity without sex pressure strengthens intimacy and reduces defenses. Which … often leads to sex anyway. But no expectations = no pressure = better connection. True story.

9. Talk about your fantasies as if it was normal (because it is)

So many couples never talk about what Really Excite them – because life, children, shame, fatigue. But normalizing these convos change the situation. Once a week, share a fantasy in turn, no judgment, no obligation to act. You know, even if it is extremely impractical (that is to say, I want to have sex on a motorcycle-when it moves). Simply share your vulnerability strengthens and deepens the erotic link you have.

10. Take a sexcation

Yes, whole holidays dedicated to the blow. This could be a weekend in a nearby cabin, a luxurious hotel in the city center or your room that has become a temple of love with silk sheets, mood lighting and zero tasks. Or if you really want to be part (and according to your sexual interests, ERM,), there is always a sex station. Regardless of what you choose, the main rule is: no visits. Just see yourself. Strong. And repeatedly.

Conclusion: Long -term love does not mean signifying a long -term blah. With a little creativity, vulnerability and desire to become bizarre, your spark can become a forest fire. Now go ahead – and your love burns shiny, daring and deliciously dirty. <3