Holiday Gift Ideas for the Sexy People in Your Life

Need shopping inspiration for the sexy people in your life? Here are some sex-themed gift ideas and deals that are (mostly) inspired by science and suitable for everyone on your list.

Give the gift of sexual communication (and orgasm!)

Many people find it challenging to express their sexual fantasies and desires because few of us learn how to express what we want. This is an important reason why I wrote this article Tell me what you want: The science of sexual desire and how it can help you improve your sex life.

This book explores the most common sexual fantasies and their sources in an attempt to help reduce the shame around them. However, tell me what you want Practical advice and information on sharing and living out your fantasies is also provided so that you can make the leap from fantasy to reality with greater confidence.

This book has the potential to improve your sex life in many ways. Studies have found that couples who talk about and act out their sexual fantasies are more sexually satisfied. Likewise, research shows that women who share their fantasies and act on them have more orgasms, which means getting in touch with our fantasies has the potential to help close the orgasm gap! How awesome is that?

Want to learn more about the science of sex? Check out the brand new third edition of my other book, human sexual psychologywhich provides a comprehensive overview of the entire sexual field. This version is also available as an audiobook for the first time! If you prefer listening to reading, click here to get 60% off Black Friday audiobooks.

Give the gift of a better blowjob

Earlier this year, I hosted Chris Maxwell Ross and Charlotte Mia Ross on the Sex & Psychology Podcast. In Episode 310, Chris and Charlotte share tips and tricks for better oral sex. They invite us to challenge expectations and think about what you and your partner want to experience. How do you want to feel? What do you want to experience? What are your oral needs and preferences?

If you’re not sure yet or don’t quite know what you like, they suggest you think about it the same way we think about food. We all like certain feelings, textures and flavors. So what do you like in your mouth? What don’t you like? Once we establish this, we can begin to create an erotic relationship with our mouths.

Ready to give it a try? Get their free gift, The Best Recipes for Happy Mechanics. oral. once. If you want more, sign up for their blowjob mastery class for a deeper dive. You can also explore their entire library of online courses to enhance your intimate life by learning everything from mindful sex to intimate touch techniques to kink.

Give them a sexy listening experience with a gift subscription

Sex & Psychology Premium is available on Apple Podcasts! This is the subscriber-only version of my Sex & Psychology podcast. It lets you listen to new episodes of shows without interruptions for an uninterrupted experience. Plus, you’ll get exclusive interviews with some of my amazing guests, including their favorite sex and relationship tips! Subscribe for just $3.99 per month, or get an Apple gift card with your subscription. Learn more here.

Give the gift of sexy swag

Check out the Sex & Psychology store where you can find some fun and sexy items including tank tops, t-shirts, mugs, stickers, sweatshirts and more. There are a variety of interesting product lines to choose from, including:

• Let’s talk about sex! (For anyone with sex on the brain)
• sex geek (for students of any gender)
• sapiosexuality (For anyone who is intellectually excited – a little or a lot)
• Sex and Psychology (To all fans)
• tell me what you want (for fantasy fanatics)

I’m happy to say that a portion of the proceeds from purchases made through the Sex & Psychology store will be donated to Planned Parenthood, the largest provider of sex education and sexual health services in the United States. Get some cool stuff and make a change at the same time! Use discount code winter 24 Purchase through my store and get 20% off the total price!

Give away some sexy books

Everyone needs some good, well-rounded sex books on their bookshelf, right? Mary Roach’s work is a must-see classic Bunker: A curious marriage of science and sex. This book actually started my journey to becoming a sex researcher!

Some of my personal favorite books (all of which I’ve featured on the podcast) include:

Other great books on the science of sex and relationships that have been on my list include: Perverts: Sexual Perversions in All of Us, Our Chemistry: The Science of Love, Sex, and Attraction, Why is sex fun? The evolution of human sexualityand All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work.

For a complete list of reading suggestions broken down by category (from relationship building to kinks to sex tips), check out my bookcase.

Give the gift of toys and fun!

If you’re in the market for something suitable for the entire season, consider the LoveHoney Advent Calendar! They offer different toy-centric options for couples, singles, and lingerie sets to get you in the mood before you can say, “Mistletoe!” Lovehoney also has a ton of amazing toys for couples, including couple vibrators and fun games. Check out their full selection here. Check out their Black Friday deals here with some toys up to 70% off!

Just looking for a fun or humorous holiday sex gift? You can never go wrong Pornogami: An Adult’s Guide to the Ancient Art of Origami. I mean, who doesn’t want to learn erotic origami? I own a copy of this book and it is definitely a fun read!

or how Sock Monkey Kama Sutra? In this book, Sock Monkey presents a range of sexual positions in a fun way – a great beginner’s guide to help newbies explore some new things in the bedroom.

Looking for a fun cookbook? I suggest Fifty Shades of Chicken: Copycat in the Recipewhich features some of the most tempting chicken recipes you’ll find anywhere (side note: when I bought this for my mom a few years ago, she was so excited about it!).

If you want your white elephant to exchange a teachable moment, give the gift of syphilis or gonorrhea (not literally, of course). You can buy stuffed toys that mimic the appearance of these actual microorganisms, and they come with images of the microorganisms the toys are modeled after. Or, buy a complete set of microorganisms, which even come with a large dose of penicillin. I have them on a shelf in my office!

Looking for other sexual health and wellness products? I’ve got you covered! Check out my list of recommendations here.

Happy holiday shopping!

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