Healthy Dating Border VRS Emotional Wall – Dating

Understand the differences between having health boundaries and having Emotional Obstacles when dating.

Boundaries are boundaries that protect themselves and not push people away. Boundaries are about self-esteem and self-awareness. This enables people to enter your life, they have healthy values and respect your emotional needs. Having these boundaries will teach people how to treat you. They can make you a deeper connection when they get back and forth as well.

Is it always easy to know if you set boundaries for health or when you build emotional walls without you knowing them. There may be a thin line between protecting your heart and staying emotionally available. It is important to understand that boundaries create security, while walls create distance.

Examples of healthy dating boundaries

1. Take time without apologizing or introspection.
2. Ability to openly discuss your emotional needs and what is important to you in a relationship.
3. You are very aware of your personal values and traders.
4. There are healthy boundaries on the same page as potential partners. When dating or taking a risk with a partnership, you have similar goals.
5. You do not tolerate disrespect or manipulation of sexual behavior.

Emotional walls are usually built from fear. They were filled with sadness and anger, which helped deportation.

When you get hurt by a tough breakup, trauma, or betrayal, you close to protect yourself. A ruthless or troublesome childhood can also lead to this reaction. You may not even know that you have a set of armor around you.

It was covered because of fear of being rejected or fear of being hurt. This stems from the pain of heartbreak or other forms of trauma in the past. This will cause you to be emotionally unavailable, which prevents you from showing any vulnerability. If you end up wanting to create transparent and trustworthy relationships, you have to do the importance of demolishing these walls.

The emotional wall includes:

1. Avoid having tough conversations. You often try to open up your feelings.
2. Romance or intimacy is limited. The most affection is superficial level.
3. You will feel emotionally closed and cannot show any vulnerability to anyone.
4. An unhealthy pattern in dating life that you rarely surpass the previous few dates.
5. You blame others for why you haven’t met a potential partner. You won’t have ownership that you don’t have emotionally.
6. Your mood is a mixture of sadness and anger. You may be disdainful or uninterested in other people’s encounters.

If you are currently dating, emotional walls can make meeting someone very difficult.

You’re putting yourself there, but keep wondering why you’re not past the first or second date? You may not know that your heart has a protective cover. If you do not give up on the guard, it will close the door to happiness and enter your life. People can feel the wall you have built.

This is usually a subconscious self-destruction and may be the culprit for the inability to find a love partnership. You think you’re available Meet potential partners. But your body language and sad voice are talking loudly.

How do you know if you have built a wall?

• When you start having feelings for someone, do you find yourself pushing people away?
• Did all your relationship end early?
• Are there any repetitive patterns in dating life or relationships?
• Have all your relationships started and ended the same way?

If people tell you you have a wall, listen to them. They will help you because you may not know this. The problem here is that you are in repetitive mode and will give you negative results.

Of course, your heart needs protection, but it is worth loving. Understand that emotional walls cannot protect the heart; they isolate it and prevent any real connection from happening.

Past breakups, while sometimes very harmful, are more important to you. They are not about closing you emotionally, so you will never have love in your life. Whether you insist on rejection, anger, or past relationships, it is based on fear. You are scared because you don’t want your heart to be sad again. If you don’t open it to anyone, you won’t be hurt anymore. You will become lonely every day.

Keeping a wall is a form of survival. Unfortunately, you are cheating on what you really deserve. The hard lessons in love are very challenging. You were going to go through certain stages of your life to teach you what really matters.

If you feel stuck, get some advice to help you break the barrier

Professional advice will help you build healthy boundaries and give you confidence. Having boundaries is capable and keeps you rooted. They are based on love, not fear. They allow you to have potential connections, and walls often block it. You deserve a relationship that is safe and seen. It starts with learning how to protect your heart and hide the difference in fear.

Please share your thoughts in the comments section to help others who may be dealing with similar situations. If you would like to continue this conversation at the coaching meeting, please contact me at dearsybersue@gmail.com.

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