Handcuffs 101 | Aldult Toys Blog

I think I’ll try BDSM for the first time? Restraints in general and handcuffs in particular are a great place to start. There are many reasons why you might want to try handcuffs with your partner, from exploring Roleplay And fantasyto simply “spice things up”.

Introducing handcuffs into your sex life can allow you to discover (pun intended) a whole new level of pleasure and play — you heard it here first!

But while using handcuffs may seem pretty self-explanatory, there are a few key things to know to ensure you get the most out of handcuffing or being handcuffed, and do it safely.

Pre-handcuffing protocol

As with any sexual act, jumping straight into the act without consulting the other party or taking a moment to think about the right setup is simply not the way to go!

– Talk about it.

When many people think of BDSM, a calm, kind, and respectful conversation is probably the last thing that comes to mind. But as with any form of BDSM play, handcuffing should be based on absolute trust and effective communication between partners. Establish consentthe limits and safe words before you start exploring. Talk to your partner about what exactly turns you on. Chances are, it will lead you to dirty talkallowing you to go into detail, while creating delicious suspense.

– Set the scene.

Create a seductive scene by connecting and relaxing with your partner. Light some candles and incense, put on some music (if that’s your thing), kiss, and let the anticipation build. A slow build-up makes your body more receptive to the sensations. If you’re drinking, don’t drink too much alcohol—not only does it make you less physically sensitive, but BDSM play should always be based on safety and consent, and being sober helps with that, especially when you’re trying something for the very first time.

Choosing the right cuffs

You could say that there’s an armband for every mood, so while there are no hard and fast rules here, putting a little thought into your choice is always a plus.

– Fur cuffs

Many prefer to start with soft or plush cuffs. While many versions of these types of cuffs leave much to be desired, as the metal penetrates directly into the poor quality material and into the wearer’s skin, these sturdy but furry cuffs actually do their job, keeping you or your partner comfortably constrained while looking irresistibly sexy. And don’t worry, because while these heavy-duty handcuffs were designed to play hard, their locking mechanism features a quick-release button in case you lose the key in the heat of the moment. You’ll both love the sensual feel of the soft, velvety faux fur teasing your skin. And even if you think you want the metal handcuffs to dig right into your skin, it’s always wise to at least start with a soft, playful barrier.

– Buckled cuffs

Buckle cuffs are often the easiest to use and their fabric or leather straps cause less irritation to the wrist while wearing. Midnight Lace Cuffs ask the wearer to surrender to the gentle caress of soft, fine lace. These wrist or ankle cuffs (whichever you prefer!) feature metal buckles to adjust the size so the wearer can tie them as tightly or loosely as possible, as well as a chain to tie the cuffs together. Meanwhile, the Bondage Couture Ankle Cuffs are perfect for beginners and compatible with other bondage equipment, making them well-suited for seasoned experts as well. You can use them on their own or, if you’re ready to take it to the next level, use your tied up to tie them to the wrists. Oh my God.

– DIY wrists

Rope cuffs are also great introductory toys for those new to restraint. They’re made from a soft but sturdy material and feature sliding knots rather than clasp openings. While you can find them online, all you really need to make your own is some soft rope and the ability to attach a handcuff knot. In many ways, the type of material you prefer for a cuff will depend on the complex desires of your perverted mind: while for some, the psychology of rope is paramount, for others, cold metal is king, and for still others, nothing can top leather or lace. And if you simply want the effect of cuffs without spending the time, money, or much effort, silk ties or scarves can also make perfectly respectable cuff substitutes. Experiment and have fun!

Choosing your position

We’re almost there, but before anyone gets cuffed to anything, you need to choose your position. Maybe you want your hands tied high above your head, or behind your back like a prisoner, or to the bedposts like a naughty girl being punished. The person being tied will have to rely to some extent on their partner to position them correctly in the cuffs of their choice (that’s what the pre-cuffing conversation is for).

If you’re really unsure of what position to start with, having the tied person lying on their back and handcuffed with their hands above their head is a simple and exciting beginner position and leaves you both free to enter a myriad of scintillating sex positions, exploring endless possibilities. erogenous zonesand give/receive oral sex at will.

Handcuffs can be whatever you want them to be: a spicy and seductive addition to your sexy outfit. vanilla sexa kinky addition to your already improvised repertoire (pun 100% intended), or an introductory toy to the untold depths of BDSM ferocity. As. You. Please. <3