First Time Celebrating World BDSM Day?

2024-07-18
Posted by PSEDEN

Limber up your latex and leather, it’s World BDSM day. Pleasure and pain go hand-in-hand (or is that whip-in-hand?) today for one kinky knees-up!

Maybe you’re uninitiated but don’t deny you’re curious. So, step into the dungeon and discover your dark side…

What is World BDSM Day?

July 24th is World BDSM day and owes its existence to the Rosas Cinco Club in Barcelona, Spain – one of the first BDSM dedicated clubs in Europe. It’s a day for the kinky folk to celebrate their passion, and to debunk misconceptions around BDSM.

What is BDSM?

BSDM stands for;

B&D – Bondage/Discipline
D&S – Domination/submission
S&M – Sadism and Masochism

It’s a little bit of an umbrella term as not all practitioners will be into all things all at once.

For example, a ‘Daddy’ might sound exciting to you but the idea of them holding a bull whip is a complete turn off. You could be desperate to be tidied up, Shibari style, but being verbally humiliated makes you want to run a mile! See what I mean?

Start With a Conversation

First Time? Be Gentle

Bondage can understandably be a bit intimidating. So, you can ease your way in by indulging in its seductive side. Silk restraints, velvet blindfolds, your BDSM box doesn’t have to be all leather and chains.

Softly restraining your partner is a gentle way to introduce restraints, and the freedom that comes with surrendering control. This is especially true when mixed with the sweeter elements of sensation play, such as a feather tickler.

Find Pleasure in Pain

Before rushing to buy a paddle, experiment with spanking. Your open palm is more than enough to make their skin pink, plus it plays into all kinds of naughty fantasies of domination.

Floggers can be sensual too if you’re patient. Rather than flailing on your sub’s backside, try trailing it over their skin where you intend to strike. This tickling tease is a heart racing way of building anticipation and gives them time to recover between swats.

All the Orgasms

Everyone likes to cum, but what about if your dominant partner was in control of when or where you could? Orgasm Control might sound extreme but it’s actually pretty accessible. If you’ve ever held in an orgasm in an attempt to cum together, you’re already part way there.

Orgasm Control comes in generally two shades: orgasm denial and forced orgasms. At the extreme end denial involves chastity cages, but its saucier side is edging – where you stop and start pleasure with the intention of holding back release. This can be extremely erotic when incorporated to a bondage scene, and makes the end results extremely intense.

Meanwhile, forced orgasms (scary name aside) is the kinky practice of bringing your partner to orgasm again and again, usually while they’re restrained. This can be achieved manually or using vibrators. A common scene in fetish porn is for a woman to have a massage wand held against her clit with a harness until she has multiple orgasms.

As one of our customers we’re going to assume you’re comfortable with orgasms from sex toys, so think of this as just the next step up.

Is Everyone Kinky?

Ah, jury’s out on that one. However, we’re always of the opinion that it’s better to try it and not like it, than to live in judgement (and curiosity). Of course, what one person might thing is kinky, another will think it’s quite tame!

If you find that including a little bondage here, or a little discipline there makes sex that bit more exciting, embrace it. You don’t have to bust out the leather every time, experiment with it like you would spicy food. Kinks are a natural, and enjoyable element of sexuality. Just be sure to stay safe and have fun.

Have we piqued your interest? Why not swing by our Bondage for Beginners page and start building your bondage box.