FF: Servant Leadership in Marriage: Debunking Control

I know, I know, you are the husband and that makes you the boss. The boss is obviously in control, so that means you are in control. The only control problem in marriage is when the woman does not accept control from her husband!

Many of us have been taught something similar, but the Bible doesn’t actually say that. The Bible says husbands should be servant leaders, just as Christ was a servant leader.

Some people would think that Jesus is in control. Jesus himself disagreed. He knew full well that God was in control and that He, Jesus, only did what He saw God do. Please don’t think this is just a technicality, this is a critical fact that we must understand if we have any hope of becoming the kind of husbands and servant leaders God has called us to be. Being the leader in your home isn’t about controlling everything; This is certainly not the way you want things done. Jesus didn’t want to go to the cross, but he did. “Not my will, but yours“We each have something to say to God about how to lead our families. Jesus was willing to die. How far are we willing to go for our wives and children?

Another thing about being a servant leader is that following such a leader is optional. If the wife wants to submit to God, it is not optional, but There is no requirement that servant leaders do the following. Just as Jesus lets us go our own way, we must be willing to let our wives ignore our attempts at leadership. If you are a true servant leader and your wife chooses not to follow you, please pray for her because this will not end well for her. If you’re doing the right thing and she’s not following you, that’s a problem God needs to fix. On the other hand, if you don’t lead properly, or don’t lead at all, those are problems that God will deal with as well.

Enough with control; move on to something new!

[This post first appeared Sept 11, 2012.]

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