FF: Decode her desire: Stop shooting

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Have you ever tried the “requesting sex every night” approach, thinking that the more you ask, the more she says yes? Or, maybe you don’t know why she said yes or no, so you think you should keep asking so you don’t miss the occasion where she might say “yes”. Basically, it’s a blind shot, hoping you hit the target occasionally!

I’ve been there and have done it and I’ve found it’s not working well. If you think about it, why? Do you think you would be outraged if your wife, your children, or anyone else did the same thing to you? You might feel that you are so naughty rather than starting to say no out of trouble? What’s more, how do you feel about them so unintentionally if they ask you when you’re obviously busy or overworking, or just so tired, you can’t stand it?

Why do your daily sexual requirements vary?

Yes, I know you don’t have enough time and when and when to come up with the backfire. But if you consider what I said above, you should understand why better targeting your inquiries can lead to more sexual behavior for both of you and less aggravation for both of you.

The key here is figuring out when/why reject it. It seems to be completely random, but it is not. The problem is that there are many factors involved, so this is a formula that is difficult to decipher.

• If she is not pregnant, menopause or hormonal contraceptives, the time of each month is huge. She should be most receptive around ovulation (if not chasing you), and this is 14 days of her next period. The week before that, she might have been more acceptable than other times. After ovulation, she has a lower acceptance. Before and during menstruation, women to women are different.
• Due to lack of sleep, fatigue may be the next biggest factor.
• The stress and continuous stress of a long day are also a big factor.
• How she contacted you in the last 24 to 36 hours is important. Remember that her love language determines her love and connection.

There are many other factors that go far beyond what I can list here. Start thinking about it; about the 24 hours before she said yes, also taking notes when she said no. Record as many records as you can and you should start finding patterns. Does she always say no after laundry day or having the kids attend some specific activities? When she is at night or the day after she dates you, may she say yes? Keep playing as a detective, you should find the clues you need to learn when asking is a waste of time (it’s a great way to aggravate her) and your odds are better. I realize that you didn’t ask you directly, but if that would make her sexually exhausted, it’s good for both of you.

[This post first appeared Nov 24, 2012.]

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