FF: 10 Despicable Ways Men Use to Control Their Wives

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As I said yesterday, we all have a natural desire to be in control. We want to be the masters of our own destiny, so to speak. We want to do what we want, when we want, and how we want.

We understand that marriage means we have to give up some control, but often after both the husband and wife have given up as much control as they are willing to give up, there is something left. The usual “solution” is to do everything we can to maintain as much control as possible. This can be any of the following:

1. Not providing our wives with necessary information. If knowledge is power, then keeping knowledge to ourselves means more control.
2. Not telling your wife basic etiquette. This is very similar to the above, but specifically about “little things,” like you’re late or you plan to make an extra stop on the way to somewhere. Same reason as above, the less she knows, the less control she has.
3. Passive/aggressive behavior, including refusing to answer her questions. It’s more about limiting control by limiting information.
4. Making decisions without consulting your wife. Some men are very good at organizing things, so when their wives are not around, they need to make decisions.
5. Spending money without consultation is not a small matter, but a big matter that affects the budget.
6. Keep some money that she doesn’t know about. Not small change, but large sums.
7. Committing to do something on your wife’s behalf or as a couple without consulting her.
8. When you know she needs something from you, you deliberately don’t help her.
9. Hold back some key elements of the project she’s working on, and stop her because she needs your involvement to proceed.
10. Promising something to your child without consulting your wife; especially if it will get her to commit to doing something.

These are just a few examples. Most are not direct but rather “sneaky” and, frankly, dishonest.

What are you doing to gain control?

[This post first appeared Sept 06, 2012.]

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