Escort doubles down on bold ‘cheating’ accusations after departure

An accountant-turned-sex worker has reinforced her view that it was not “cheating” for a married man to have sex with her.

Katija Cortez, from Sydney, went viral earlier this year after she claimed a married man sleeping with her was not cheating – something she still firmly believes.

“Men are particularly good at distinguishing between sex and love. It’s not the same thing as connection,” she told news.com.au.

She said a married man paying for her services was completely different from actively seeking an affair.

There were no dinners, sleepovers or text messages, Cortez said. It’s just sex.

“They paid us to leave,” she said.

“Things are emotional. Even if the man isn’t emotional, the woman may be.”

She said she was not here to steal other people’s husbands, she was just here to work and then go home.

Cortez said she also has couples who book for her — usually the woman leads the way.

She also heard of women booking sex workers for their husbands but not attending the appointments.

Although, she had no such experience herself.

However, people reacted strongly to Cortez’s statement that booking sex workers is not considered cheating.

One person said: “In this case it was just a business deal and nothing else, and if the person buying her services is married then they are dealing with someone cheating on their partner.”

Another added: “You don’t cheat but married men do.”

Another social media user added: “It may not be an emotional issue but it’s still cheating.”

One commented: “It’s your job, men are getting it wrong.”

“Don’t you think this is cheating? Ask the customer’s wife. Look at the look on her face and you’ll soon know,” one social media user said.

Another said: “It’s not cheating, for men it’s just different foods that we need over and over again. No emotion whatsoever.”

Cortez says men simply don’t think of sex as cheating — and that’s what all of her clients say.

“Of course, in front of people, they’ll say it’s cheating. But privately they think completely different,” she said.

“Women see it as cheating. For a lot of women, sex is very emotional.”

She said men and women need to separate sex from emotion.

“It’s not anti-feminist to go buy a product or service. At the end of the day, it’s still a service. Some people have a hard time distinguishing what that is,” she said.

She said just because some people don’t like it doesn’t mean it serves as a blanket rule.

She likens it to politics. Believing one side is better than the other is just an opinion, not a fact.

“If that’s what everyone thought, I wouldn’t have a job. But that’s obviously not what people think. Sex workers are making more money than ever before,” she said.

Cortez points out that if someone – whether a man or a woman – is looking for sex elsewhere, people need to look inward.

Cortez points out whether men are doing enough to make their partners want sex, whether their sex drives match, and whether women are cutting off sex. These are the ideas pointed out by Cortes.