Encouraging Your Wife to Improve Herself: A Delicate Balance

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A comment on a recent article talked about how tricky it is to push a wife to do something she really should be doing. Taking better care of her body is one example, which can be a minefield. You want her to lose weight or exercise more, but suggesting these things can lead to arguments, silence, or weeks without sex.

So, what can you do?

There’s no magic formula here, but it helps if you understand why she’s resisting:

1. She hears your criticism, not your concern.
2. She thinks you want her to look prettier so you can please yourself. Or worse, she thinks she’s embarrassing you.
3. She had been beaten for this before. Maybe it was by her family or maybe it was because she was bullied at school.
4. Being overweight was a form of self-protection for her, and she wasn’t ready to give it up.
5. Past failures discouraged her.

A good way to approach this is to say, “When you’re ready to do this, let me know how I can help.”

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