Don’t make stupid choices because sex is scarce

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On XY Code, I reposted an article telling women to encourage their husbands to do things with other men, including overnight retreats and hunting trips. A friend said the following in the comments:

Men who constantly crave sex and connection with their wives are more likely not to leave or hang out with male friends.

He was not wrong.

I remember making poor choices when I felt like we weren’t having enough sex, which limited my opportunities to desperately try to never miss sex.

If we were with friends at night and someone made some suggestions that would delay our return home, I would refuse. In general, sex was less likely to happen, and if we got home late, it wouldn’t happen at all. Leaving for the night means no sex that night, and possibly no sex the night before or the night after.

Looking back, I realize that these choices were not only bad for me, but also bad for my wife, my marriage, and my sex life. I need more male fellowship. Not having it hurts me and my marriage. If we stay out late doing something my wife likes, we won’t have sex when we get home, but doing things she likes together will improve our relationship; overall, it will make sex better more likely to happen. What’s more, if my wife knew I said no to something she wanted to do, it might mean no sex that night and a few times after.

I was so focused on my next score that I became blind to the bigger picture and how my actions were making things worse.

If any of this touches you, what steps would you take to change it?

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