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Zhang told the Washington Post, “Living in a patriarchy where society caters to and supports cisgender men, a lot of the values ​​we place on women are focused entirely on their ability to meet men’s needs. This is something we see in magazines and on social media This is especially evident in dating advice, which often focuses on how to attract a man, keep him interested, or respond when he pulls away.”

She explains that in astrological terms, the Sun, Mars, Saturn, and Jupiter are considered masculine planets, while the Moon, Neptune, Venus, and Pluto are considered feminine planets.

male imbalance

Mercury and Uranus, like Birkenstocks and black, are considered neutral.

“If there is no balance between masculine and feminine energies, too much masculine energy may lead to an overestimation of male-centric characteristics,” Zhang explains.

Within the zodiac, there are six polarities, based on the concepts of yin (or female energy) and yang (or masculine energy).

Feminine or Yin energy is characterized by passivity and receptivity, while masculine energy is active and individualistic.

All earth and water signs are considered feminine, while all fire and air signs are considered masculine.

elemental domination

Zhang continued: “If there are more air and fire sign positions in the chart, it will be considered to have more masculine energy and will be a person who likes to keep things going and take action to get what they want. of something.

“These people often have seemingly endless energy or explosive energy to make things go their way.”

At the same time, “the dominance of water and earth signs suggests that a person may be receptive and reactive, using insight and reserve energy to respond to something.”

Aries, Leo, Sagittarius, Gemini, Aquarius and Libra, as Sun signs, “may make it easier to understand which masculine traits are valuable.”

Water signs and earth signs (Pisces, Scorpio, Cancer, Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn), on the other hand, are more likely to accept the idea of ​​having to obey their partner.

“Ideally, we work to balance the masculine and feminine energies, and if our chart is tilted to one side, we use self-awareness to balance the tilted side through external factors such as environment, relationships, or self-work.”

Essentially, the decentering of men or masculinity is a response to this imbalance of energy in the culture at large.

Decentering masculinity

Zhang told the Washington Post, “Decentering men’s behavior became a movement because women were self-sacrificing in the dating world, often losing their self-esteem and confidence. This goes against pervasive, often misogynistic expectations It’s about the idea that we are incomplete without a partner, or a partner that validates or gives us value.”

Zhang explains that through the process of decentralization, we can prioritize our own needs, thereby improving our relationship with ourselves and our motivation to share with others.

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“When it comes to dating — the term most commonly used — astrology can be used as a tool to scrutinize our behavior and examine inherent misogyny, helping us determine whether we’re doing it for the right reasons based on our horoscope Dating.”

Some questions to consider:

• Do we only feel valued when someone pursues us or talks to someone?
• When someone takes us out, do we just want to dress up or work on our appearance?
• Do we self-sacrifice or hold back on dates because we want someone to like us and take us out again?

The real questions that arise when deciding to decentralize are:

• Will this person add to my already full and wonderful life?
• Did they put effort into the conversation, or just the bare minimum (e.g., did they ask me any questions)?
• Does this person have the language to express their emotions?
• Are they as interested in dating as I am?

Things to consider with the zodiac elements:

Signs of fire: What did they do to show you that they were interested in you, what did they do to impress you, what did they do to get your attention?

Air mark: How do they stimulate your intelligence? What are they curious about about you? What makes you excited to hang out with them or get to know them?

Water sign: How do they make you feel when you are with them? Do you feel safe being yourself and exploring with this person? Do you feel exhausted or stressed when you are with this person?

Earth sign: Do they make you want to leave your home or change your daily routine? Are they the kind of people who will consistently show up and support you? Do they respect your boundaries?

For a personal take on decentralization, see Chang’s advice for each zodiac sign.

“In relationships, it’s natural for Aries to show their attraction, but that ultimately gives up power,” says Zhang. “Yes, you’re impressive, but it’s what your partner does that impresses or impresses you.” What are you interested in?”

Zhang told the Washington Post, “Taurus seeks stability, material comforts and relaxation, but this can quickly become complacent if their partner stops trying or putting in the effort. For Taurus, distract their partner , it’s important to ask: What did this person do to make you feel seen and valued, and did the date they proposed really make you want to leave the house?

Zhang insists, “Gemini people have a curse that makes them interesting no matter who the people around them are. When they focus on their partner, the trap they fall into is idealizing them and overanalyzing everyone. Nonverbal facial expressions.”

Before you start asking yourself, ‘Do they like me?’ honestly ask yourself, ‘Was that a fun date, or did I just have fun for two hours?’ ‘”

As an embodiment of the Divine Feminine archetype, Zhang explains: “Cancers are more likely than most to fall into the partner-centered trap because they want to provide a safe space and nurturing for their loved ones. As extremely romantic people, it’s important for Cancers to “

Zhang insists that big cats require tremendous reciprocity.

“Leos, like all fire signs, have an innate ability to stand out from the crowd and win over suitors. However, it can be exhausting to continually give out all that energy with little in return. The next time you’re on a date because you’re When you feel exhausted from looking glamorous, ask yourself, “Does this person look good in this outfit? “And focus on those partners who allow you to shine a light on them with you.”

Zhang told the Washington Post, “As service-oriented people, Virgos can easily get stuck in routines, especially when they’re needed. However, because of their analytical skills, it’s important to occasionally check in on themselves before they’re needed. External feelings are important. Have they done anything to make you feel valued and cared about?”

Zhang shared, “Libras are naturally social animals, and they like to cooperate and engage in fun couple activities. When they are partner-centered, the traps they fall into are delightful. Not only will they try their best to meet the standards of their date, And it may also be done because you don’t want to feel lonely or alone.”

Zhang advises, “One question to ask during or after a date is, ‘Is this person really interested in me? Or are they also trying to escape loneliness?'”

Scorpios have never been the type to take things easy, Zhang said. “When they are partner-centered, Scorpios tend to throw themselves completely into the depths of their partner’s turbulent emotions. Like their fellow water signs, Scorpios are very important.” The point is to ask yourself, what is their date like? them Feel. This is the only way to reposition yourself. “

For the Archers, acquiescence equals no boundaries.

“Optimistic Sagittarius can easily get carried away by their partner’s plans and change their entire image to fit the ideal version of what their partner wants them to be. To get off the center, they need to ask themselves what makes them happy and excited about life , and how that person fits into their ideal lifestyle, the less likely they are to follow someone else’s passion.”

Zhang told the Washington Post that Sea Goats must distinguish between providers and partners, “Capricorns value law, order, and material possessions. In this way, Capricorns may be prone to extremely egregious behavior (such as cheating) when caught in the central spiral. ) slip because their partner provides them with a distraction from the question, ‘Would I let other people treat me like this?'”

Zhang explains that when partner-focused, “Aquarians can fall into the trap of overgeneralizing bad behavior and holding the pursuer accountable. They shouldn’t say yes to everyone and anyone because they believe these grand generalizations,” Instead, ask yourself a question that decenters your partner: “What qualities in a person would make me excited to go out with them? “

Astrology 101: Your Guide to the Stars

For fish, flexibility can quickly turn into self-sacrifice. Zhang explained,

“Pisces will give almost anyone a chance; fickleness and water signs give them the ultimate go-with-the-flow attitude. If society tells Pisces they must dress a certain way to attract a mate, they will execute perfectly. If they are told they must Offer free therapy or a shoulder to cry on and they will help. With such a selfless nature, the question they should ask themselves is, “Is this person putting as much effort into meeting my needs as I am putting into meeting theirs. The same amount of effort? “

Astrologer Reda Wigle researches and respectfully reports on planetary configurations and their effects on each sign. Her horoscopes are a blend of history, poetry, pop culture and personal experiences. To book a reading, visit her website.