The first time using sex toys is both exciting and disturbing. This is one of the first steps to take your pleasure into your own hands, so you can explore your physical and sexual behaviors.
You may hesitate to start a solo saxophone practice, but it is important to approach it with a curiosity about your body and your fun.
Self-exploration is totally normal, and using sex toys can bring a whole bunch of stress relief benefits to create a deeper connection with yourself and any sexual partner you may have.
Congratulations on starting this new journey, we encourage you to experience it with you with an open mind and know we are here to give you tips on how to explore with your first sex toy!
Overcome your first trouble
If you are a new journey of self-pleasing, then you may be worried or anxious. These may come from social or cultural influences, or just normal first annoyance (both understandable).
Masturbation and using sex toys are totally normal and things many people do. They are not only part of a healthy sex life, but also part of your overall well-being! If you are worried about whether it will hurt, it shouldn’t be hurt unless you have an underlying reproductive health disorder, but if you’ve never experienced penetration before (option to explore it), you may feel a little uncomfortable at first and this will quickly go away.
If you meet someone who is annoying, or you feel like you are judging yourself, then continue to remind yourself of the pleasure you deserve and have the right to explore your body as you like. Talk to friends that you are happy with you and explore online forums and other resources (such as blogs) to learn more about entertainment and sex toy tips.
Choose your first sex toy
What is the best sex toy for beginners? Ultimately, choosing a sex toy comes down to your body and it is delightful to you. Of course, this can be a little exploration, but that’s what you’re here for!
Many different types of toys can be sex toys for beginners, but of course, a specific type of toy may be easier to obtain than others. Many people choose bullets, wands, or clitoral devices as their first vibrator. Others may want a dildo that provides nutrition or couples toys so they can explore with their partner.
Some features you may want to keep in mind when looking for a toy are whether you can adjust the strength, how quiet it is when it is turned on, and whether it is waterproof.
Whatever type of toy you buy, you want to make sure it is made of silicone or ABS plastic (such as sensitive skin or allergies), such as silicone or ABS plastic, and is hypoallergenic.
Of course, you also need something within your budget. There are so many affordable and high-quality options for beginners that we are proud of at Lelo to offer ourselves.
Prepare for first use
Want to know how to get started with sex toys? You already have the first sex toy and now the fun part – use it.
It’s much easier to show up in your body and experience fun while you’re comfortable. Choose a relaxing space, such as your bedroom. It helps to have dim lights, light some candles, wear some soft music or whatever you need to do to be as comfortable as possible.
One of the biggest tips we can offer is to use lubricants. Not everyone wants to use lubricant, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with using it. Actually, we encourage it! Lubricants can help you feel more comfortable and can make orgasm easier. As long as you use silicone toys, just make sure to choose a body-safe and water-based lubricant. Oil-based lubricants break down silicone over time.
Although we mention orgasm, it is important to know that self-exploration is not about orgasm. If that happens, that might be a nice benefit, but in reality, it’s just exploring your body and figuring out how it feels to you.
How to use sex toys for the first time
Now you are ready to explore and it is helpful to know how to use sex toys. You can start with these self-pleasing tips:
- Dedicated to taking time to focus on yourself, rather than your to-do list or other stuff running in your brain.
- Take a few minutes to get inside you. You can do this by stretching or practicing deep breathing.
- Explore your body by moving your hands over the self-esteem and then moving to more sensitive areas such as breasts, thighs, or clitoris. You can also use toys for this!
- Instead of immediately putting the toy on a hot spot in the clitoris or vagina, you can use it to explore the surrounding area and notice the feeling of appearing.
- When you are ready, you can start exploring the more direct fun of clitoris or penetration.
This is when you explore, so try different settings on your device, move slowly and listen to your body and what you want.
Safety and health best practices
Part of sex toy safety is knowing to handle and clean the toys correctly. Cleaning sex toys is crucial for bacterial accumulation and possible infections.
How you clean a toy depends on the material it is made of. Glass, silicone and stainless steel toys can all be cleaned with soap and water or toy cleaners such as spray or foam. Here, having waterproof toys is very helpful as they can be submerged and cleaned with warm water. If the toy is not available, you can also wipe it with a toy-specific antibacterial cleaner.
If you want to share toys with others, make sure you have discussed sexually transmitted diseases, clean them thoroughly between use, and you can also use condoms on many toys for extra safety.
Another key hygiene tip is to store the toys in a bag or container to keep bacteria, dust and dirt unchanged. You want to remember to recharge your toy regularly, but plugging it into it all night can reduce battery life.
Build confidence in self-exploration
The first time you explore the body will feel embarrassed, but over time you will develop more confidence. Especially when you realize how it feels!
You can help overcome this embarrassment by reminding yourself that happiness is normal and you deserve it. Know that if a toy doesn’t work for you, there is another toy that works.
Be patient with yourself and your body, and remember to practice self-acceptance. Masturbation and sexual use are completely normal. Not only that, self-exploration is an important form of self-care and incredible empowerment.
When to explore more options
You’ve tried the first text, but now you want to know different toys or features. How do you know when to explore more options? These are some signs:
- You want to experience new stimulation (vaginal, anal, etc.)
- You need a stronger feeling (try changing settings).
- The toys feel uncomfortable.
- You are curious and want to explore more!
Some other interesting toys you want to explore as you move forward on your journey are app-controlled toys that allow people to change settings around the world and be like rabbit vibrators (such as rabbit vibrators). Explore your fun at your own pace. This is your body and journey.
Enjoy the process
Getting the first sex toy can be just as exciting and anxiety-provoking. But we are glad you decided to embark on this journey of self-exploration.
Remember to spend time physically and processally practicing good sexual hygiene and conduct this journey with curiosity and self-confidence. Want to explore more? Start exploring The best couple sex toys or A beginner’s guide to dual vibrators.
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