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So you want to bring it to your ass? What is now?

Well, there may be at least two possible lingering obstacles. Especially for the heterosexual male readers of Cisgender, you might be wondering if curiosity or even enjoying anal games will make you gay. 1) No, 2) This can be a great opportunity to check for potential homophobia you may be ongoing. Sexual orientation is often much more complex than a single sexual behavior, often covering romantic or emotional preferences. Also, if you conclude by (I will correct) that there is nothing wrong with being gay, then you are more likely to enjoy the anal game completely.
You may also be worried about poop. Honestly, don’t be shy! It doesn’t matter. As I said, shit happened and if you are keen to minimize it happening, I would recommend you to my past blog “The back door is open!”


(Anal) Gender Value

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Therefore, we have identified some sexual brakes for anal games (“threat to masculinity” and “chaos”) that potential pain is undoubtedly another. I think you won’t be offensive if there is anything hurt (I guess no one has read this book on the stove. Unless you like that, I’ll be the last one to stop you or Yuck Yum Yum, as long as it’s safe and agree!).
The late great sex educator and talk sexist Sue Johansen (rest in power, thank you for keeping me on late night TV when I shouldn’t have watched it!
Although it is Generally speaking To be precise, I think it’s a little short. As I briefly mentioned in “The Back Door Open”, there are two ring-like muscles that control the sphincter, one that controls more voluntarily than the other. There is quite a lot of stretching happening during anal game, and if you might see something in porn or someone there might be hurt. As Sue is also famous (I interpret it here – it has been twenty years since the talk time.): “Lutraction is your friend.”


Started from childhood, like you

I would say that depending on what you inserted, as long as there is a flared base, I stick to my advice, there can be a small pain, and it will most likely fade as you feel more familiar with the feeling. Obviously, everyone has different pain thresholds, and if the pain is unbearable, listen to your body and take a break.
Dr. Emily Nagoski, the best-selling author of Badass best-selling Come Aling, writes very eloquently about “sexual value.” The general idea is, for desire Sex, it must be sexual, you are interested in real, clear, or worthy. I’m not sure if she has anal sex herself, but I think that definitely applies here. The mind is your most powerful sexual organ – Sorry, there is nothing between your legs! – Natural curiosity and this embrace of sexual exploration can take you a long way. This triggered my further consideration: having anal play with a partner or partner, especially if anyone keeps it.


The more!

Generally speaking, anal sex is a good sharing practice. The anus is a prominent erotic area filled with nerve ends without saying prostate stimulation. Therefore, giving and accepting pleasure in any breed can be a solid form of promoting intimacy between partners. And, just as there are often obvious differences in sexual desire between partners, the thoughts and methods of anal sex can vary greatly.


Understanding anal sex is helpful

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Education, whether it’s a resource like this blog, working with a reconciled clinician, or something else, can set the stage for exploration. If we take attachment theory as a framework, we must establish a safe foundation and feel safe enough to start new behaviors. Transcendence is also key. Rather than attacking a partner’s reservation or resorting to defense, try to truly understand their point of view. Consent is crucial. Even if the end result is to give up on exploration, you may walk away emotionally, which is a victory in my book.


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