Adultsmart sexologist Stephanie Curtis resigns: A love affair

Adultsmart Sexologist Says Goodbye

I have loved working at Oh Zone and helping so many people with their intimate lives. It has been a wonderful experience to be an Adultsmart Sexologist. One of my favorite things is to be typing away and hopefully sharing some useful information with the adultsmart community through my articles and stories. Now that I am making sexology my full-time career, the articles will become less frequent and my time in the store to meet everyone face to face is over. This is my last article from my time working at the adult store.

To those of you who have been in my shop, bye, it was an honor. To everyone on adultsmart, I will still post the odd article. But for now, bye, my life, living and love will serve you the best I can! ! ! !

What I learned from working in an adult store:

I can’t believe I’ve been working at Oh Zone Adult Living for two full years! If you had asked me 10 years ago, I certainly wouldn’t have imagined myself doing this job, but I’m so grateful that I took a chance and did something a little different. As I prepare to start my career as a Certified Sexologist and Intimacy Coach, I wanted to share some of the things I’ve learned from this job that will benefit me in so many ways throughout my life.

Talking about sex

For many people, talking about anything to do with sex can be very difficult. We live in a world that revolves around sex, but as a culture, it can be challenging to discuss sex openly and honestly. Before taking this job, I knew I was a sex-positive person, but I didn’t realize how challenging it would be to quickly open up to strangers about such an intimate area of ​​their lives. Working at Oh Zone has given me an incredible experience to talk about sex, pleasure, and genitals in a very matter-of-fact way.

Make people comfortable talking about sex

Similar to the above, working at Oh Zone has given me a lot of experience in getting others to open up about sex. I’ve learned to pay attention to body language and other cues in order to say or do things that make my clients feel comfortable opening up to me. I’ve found that finding comfort within myself puts others at ease, and pointing out the elephant in the room (i.e., discomfort with talking about sex) gets most people to break the ice.

Communication Boundaries

Like anywhere in life, you will always encounter people who try to cross the line. Some people have made assumptions about me because I work in an adult shop, so I have had to really work out what is and isn’t okay. I have been asked explicitly what my personal sexuality is, and countless people have over-shared about their sex lives. To a lot of people, this doesn’t sound bad. You wouldn’t ask a woman working in Harvey Norman what she likes, so why should I be any different?

I know there are very few spaces where people can talk openly about sex, in the right environment, which is what an adult store is, but I can’t emphasize the environment enough. I’m grateful that 99% of the people who cross some kind of boundary apologize when I tell them it’s not appropriate, so it’s a really good lesson in communicating clearly and not shaming the other person because they usually don’t know.

Sex Toys Knowledge

To those around me, I am now an official expert on sex toy knowledge! Before I started working here, I only knew about very basic products like vibrators and cock rings, and thought sex toys were only for orgasm. Now I know there are so many products out there for people from all walks of life. From penis pumps for prostate surgery recovery to Kegel trainers for vaginal prolapse prevention, adult stores have products for so much more than just pleasure (and there are a lot of those, don’t worry!!).

Awareness of the extent of sexual shame (and penis shame)

I’ve seen countless people walk in Oh Zone Store If there is one thing that stands out, it is how much shame we as a culture carry around sex. This manifests in many ways, from young people laughing and telling crude jokes to hide their discomfort, to people who won’t even make eye contact with me when I walk into a store. I also hear so many jokes about penis size and male sex toys, which is another shameful story!! I can sometimes do a good job of questioning these responses and getting people to move past the shame around sex and visiting adult stores.

For many people, working in an adult store means being exposed to all sorts of opinions and judgements about the sex industry. I feel lucky to be able to dive into this job because it is so much deeper and more satisfying than a typical retail job. It is incredibly satisfying to see people open up to you about the impact of such a private area of ​​their lives.

Goodbye, farewell!

After an incredible journey at Adult Smart, it’s time to say goodbye. I’ve cherished every moment and learned so much. I’m grateful to my colleagues and community for their unwavering support. The work we’ve shared has been invaluable, and I leave with fond memories and deep gratitude.

Explore the insights of Stephanie Curtis! A caring sexologist, she delves into spirituality and tantra, and writes professionally, clearly, and entertainingly.