Husband complains about taking care of children

He dug a hole for himself.

A frustrated wife and mother took to UK community website Mumsnet to vent her husband’s irrational complaints about having to look after their children while she worked.

She provided more context on the forum, explaining that her husband lost his job due to health reasons and she worked part-time, but he complained about her work schedule.

Supposedly, he told her she “should get a job that works around school hours and I should definitely not work on the weekends (we always have a free weekend). He knows the days/times I work and we both agree it’s okay,” she wrote in the post.

What was really exciting was that after a long day at work, she came back to him, moaning and complaining that he had to take care of his baby. “He does one pick-up and drop-off from school. He can do whatever he wants with the rest of the day.”

Don’t forget about the boys, this guy is a big baby boy.

Visibly frustrated and unsure how to handle the situation, the mum took to the online community to ask whether her husband’s immature behavior was justified and whether she should look for another job that would better suit her family.

“Well, he needs to actually contribute to family life??? If he can’t work, he needs to take care of the kids/family! If he can’t do both, then what’s the point of being there? (Except for being severely disabled of course),” someone wrote.

“Of course you’re not being unreasonable? Does he just think y’all shouldn’t be working? Maybe some people think so, but most of us don’t. I won’t be so forgiving anymore…” one commenter replied.

“I would say get a full time job. If he’s at home full time then he’s actually complaining about his job, which he can do but not to the full extent of what he does or it’s the first thing you hear when you get home…” another person chimed in.

The original poster added, “I feel like he’s jealous that I get to go to work while he’s stuck at home. He always works until he can’t work anymore. The reasons why he can’t work are unlikely to be improved.”

Another mom responded: “Then he needs to get into the stay-at-home-dad program. If you think he’s struggling to adjust to the change, maybe suggest some counseling to him.”

The irrational husband may complain, but at least he won’t selfishly ask to go on vacation without his wife and newborn baby.

Obviously, the bar is very low.

“I was barely a month postpartum from major abdominal surgery…I thought he was obviously going to be home to help and support me – so I’m shocked and hurt that he would even ask,” his shocked wife wrote on Reddit.

One shocked commenter wrote: “NTA, he shouldn’t have been so quick to leave you alone with the kids.”

Another added: “If your husband’s first reaction is to leave you alone two weeks postpartum, I don’t think he knows what a partnership is or how serious a C-section can be.”