Why Women Forty and Over Should Use Vibrators

As a sex therapist, educator, and researcher, I believe every woman should own a clitoral vibrator (or several). And, while I recommend this for all women, it’s an especially strong recommendation for any woman in perimenopause and beyond (around mid-to-late forties and beyond). That’s why!

Around the late 1940s, as women enter what is called perimenopause, their genitals begin to undergo some changes. Specifically, declining estrogen levels during this phase, and later during actual menopause, can lead to a troubling set of symptoms known as genitourinary syndrome of menopause (GSM). GSM may include vaginal dryness, vaginal itching, and pain with penetration.

Additionally, women going through the menopausal transition may have reduced sensitivity of the clitoral nerve endings (i.e., less sensitivity to stimulation). The actual clitoris also shrinks in size, making it less responsive to stimulation. The changes of menopause (as well as aging itself) can weaken the pelvic floor muscles. Many women experience urinary incontinence.

All of this sounds bad, right? What’s even scarier is that many women experience these symptoms but don’t know what’s causing them. Worst of all, despite 50% of the population going through menopause, too few doctors are trained to care for GSM women! If you’re reading this and realize you’re struggling with GSM, seek out a menopause-certified doctor.

For example, in the United States you can find a website Menopause Association. The sooner you see such a doctor, the better! This is because GSM itself is not getting better. It is a progressive, chronic disease, and if left untreated, underlying changes in genital tissue will continue indefinitely. However, if you see a menopause-certified doctor early on, they can treat and relieve GSM symptoms by prescribing vaginal estrogen, which is approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration.

And, according to one article In a medical journal, guess what else doctors should prescribe to help women with GSM and sexual health? Vibrator! Vibrators have been found to improve sexual function in women of all ages. Women who use them orgasm more easily and more often! They are also specifically designed to help with some of the issues faced by menopausal women. Recall that the clitoral nerves become less sensitive during menopause. Well, a vibrator can provide the more intense stimulation these nerve endings need.

Additionally, vibration increases blood circulation to the genitals, and this increased blood flow promotes healthy vaginal walls, helping to relieve dryness and thinning caused by reduced estrogen. Relatedly, there is evidence that vibrators can help relieve the pain experienced by many menopausal women. Studies have also found that vibration can increase pelvic muscle tone and even improve urinary incontinence. Perhaps because of this relief of physical symptoms, one study Women who find using vibrators less frustrated!

other study Women who use them have been found to be more satisfied with their lives! The same study found that those who used them with their partners reported greater relationship satisfaction. In short, vibrators help women’s sexual, genitourinary and emotional well-being, especially those over 40!

Which vibrator is best for this group of women? Basically, any vibrator a woman likes is her best choice. Nonetheless, since many women in this age group also suffer from hand pain and arthritis, the first recommendation is smart stick This is both because it provides wonderful stimulation and because it is easy to hold.

Likewise, other vibrators that offer incredible stimulation and are easy to hold are Please cruise and sona cruiseboth provide stimulation via sound waves, stimulating the external and internal clitoris. All of these devices should be used with a large amount of water-based lubricant, e.g. LELO’s personal moisturizer. In fact, sexual and menopausal health providers recommend using lube at all times, whether alone or with a partner!

Although smart stick, Please cruiseand sona cruise They are all aimed at external genital stimulation, gently stimulating the vaginal opening and vaginal canal, and use them at the same time plenty of lubricantcan also help relax the muscles at the vaginal entrance and keep vaginal tissue moist. Of course, if it’s going to cause harm, don’t do it, and be sure to see a menopause-certified doctor or a trained pelvic floor therapist (you can find one here).

However, if insertion does not feel uncomfortable, grab Mona 2, or Vitality 3 and give it a try. Another option is to use a rabbit vibrator, e.g. When 3 And get both inner and outer stimulation.

Aging and menopause don’t necessarily mean the end of great sex and orgasms, nor the beginning of lasting discomfort. Equipped with knowledge, a good doctor, a good pelvic floor therapist (if needed) and LELO vibratorsex can be better than ever! In fact, a large study of people who had experienced gorgeous sex Research has found that for many women, the best sex begins after age 50 because they abandon cultural messages (for example, that real sex includes penetration). Aging can help women feel more free sexually!

The late Jeanne Joseph famously wrote of aging as a time of freedom and fun. The first line of the poem is “When I am an old woman, I will wear purple.” Let us not only embrace this sentiment, but add to it. Let’s think of aging as a time for sexual joy. My wish is that when you are old you will use a vibrator!