How (and Why) to Keep a Happy Journal – Girly Juice

I love reading old diaries; they teach me a lot about myself. Recently I came across an article from 2012, the year I started writing this blog. Around that time, I became fascinated by the work of tantric-inspired sex educators like Jaiya and Barbara Carrellas. In keeping with their focus on maximizing joy in life, I began keeping a “happiness journal” in my journal.

A typical entry begins by describing a sexual fantasy, erotic clip, or erotic story that turns me on and why I find it so sexy. I’ll then go on to describe the way I touch myself (or, more rarely, invite a partner to touch me), the sex toys I use, and what my orgasm feels like. I often take these notes lazily in the sweet afterglow; a form of self-administered aftercare in written form, so to speak.

I don’t have a long-standing habit of journaling about pleasure, probably because my regular journal entries tend to be pleasure-focused anyway (as you might expect from me, a self-indulgent Taurus foodie/professional masturbator!). But I still think it’s an excellent practice that a lot of people can benefit from. The internet can be a useful resource when you’re looking for answers to overt sex questions, such as which fetish club in Berlin is the best, or which dominatrix in Melbourne has the best rankings, but when it comes to: yourself And your own psychology, the answer may well lie there.

exist your Pleasure Diary, you can record your masturbation sessions like I did, or you can take a broader approach and write any From the sound of bluebirds singing on your morning walk to silly conversations with friends to enjoying a glass of fine wine with dinner, you’ll encounter this fun throughout the day. The more you practice noticing these things, the easier it will be to notice them and enjoy them.

Whether you call it a happiness journal or give it a snappier name that suits you better, I think there are a few key reasons why you should consider journaling about feel-good experiences:

1. Taste

As sexologist Emily Nagoski describes in her great book come togethersavoring is a science-backed positive psychology technique that can help you enjoy pleasure more deeply and remember it more vividly. In short, it’s a mindfulness-based practice of noticing pleasure when it occurs, appreciating it, and maybe even commenting on it out loud (“That feels so good!”) or expressing your enjoyment through laughter, moans, giggles, or whatever else feels most natural. Getting good at savoring pleasure takes practice, especially for those of us who grew up surrounded by sexual shame—and writing about your happiest moments is a fun way to practice this skill.

2. Self-care

I don’t know about you, but when I’m depressed, sick, or low on energy, I almost forget that joy exists, or that there is a way for me to obtain it. So it helps to have a long list that I can look at that reminds me of foods, drinks, albums, movies, smells, and other sensory pleasures that have actually made me smile in the past. Even if you keep strict records sexual Despite documenting pleasure in your journal, it’s still useful to have a list of fantasies, erotic clips, sex toy techniques, etc. that you know you can rely on, especially when stress completely sapped your libido.

3. Share

Whether or not you currently have (or want) a sexual partner, it’s possible—no, likely—that one day you’ll meet someone new with whom you want to share sensual pleasure, sexual or otherwise. When that day comes, you’ll be glad you were able to connect so deeply with the things that bring you joy because your self-knowledge can be shared with others to help you them Give you more fun. Likewise, you can learn a lot their Learn about happiness preferences by asking them what was among their most enjoyable past experiences, if you’re willing to hear them.

Dear reader, have you ever written a happy diary? Did you find it useful and/or inspiring?

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