An underrated way to expand your sexual palate… – Girly Juice

Ever feel like you’re stuck, like you’re looping the same fantasy in your head every time you masturbate/have sex and can’t get out of your pattern?

Trust me, I’ve been there. While I would never recommend that you feel ashamed of your desires, sometimes it’s not shame but boredom and monotony that makes us want to expand our kinks and palettes. After all, humans thrive on novelty, and even your all-time favorite treat may sometimes leave you wanting more. (A woman can’t live on chocolate cake alone, much as she might want to…!)

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that you can bring your kink life to life by Hang out with people who have different quirks than yours – Preferably someone you’re with Some There is overlap, but there are also many differences. As one of my fetishist friends once said (while threatening to engage in knife play with me!), “I mean, we don’t want to be life partners here. Maybe just learn something.”

This resonated deeply with me, because for me, a lot of the struggle is about learning: it’s a lens through which to continually discover and rediscover what interests you, what excites you, and what you’re capable of. As in other aspects of life, in kink we often learn the most from people who are very different from us—because they inspire us to try things we wouldn’t otherwise consider, thereby revealing new aspects of our sexuality and selves.

For example, if I hadn’t met my current wife, whose biggest kink is erotic hypnosis, I doubt I would have fully realized how much pleasure I get from flow state-style headspaces like trance and subspace. Trance also allowed me to explore other forms of bondage—those that bound me with the power of my own thoughts rather than ropes or chains, which were both cold and hot in completely unexpected ways.

It was also through my wife’s love of hypnosis that we discovered my love of dolls, toyification, and other forms of “mind play” – these were surprisingly healing efforts for me, as my intellect had been the bearing center of her identity for so long and sometimes needed a break from that mantle.

So, my advice to you this week: Find a way to expand your kink horizons by connecting with people whose tastes are well beyond your driving range. Can some of your new friends at Chew talk to you about your next big thing? Could a random, exhibitionist Omegle video call free your mind by letting you play a role in someone else’s fantasy? Could filling out a “yes/no/maybe” list with your current partner lead the two of you down a whole new path together that you wouldn’t have stumbled upon without discussing your similarities and beautiful differences? Only time will tell…you won’t know until you try!

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