Be your husband

Charlie Kirk’s widow Erika Kirk spoke at his funeral Sunday night – I found her words great for many reasons.

She found the depth of courage and faith to forgive her husband’s killer.

Despite her grief, she will continue his mission to save young Americans in her husband’s organization.

She won’t waste the opportunity to talk to the country, calling on young people to “embrace real manhood, be strong and brave to their family, love your wife and lead them”.

She called on women to be “assistants” to her husband and followed him – although she begged men to make sure they were worth following.

I know that for many women, especially in this era, nearly 60% of women engaged in the workforce, her words – her vision for modern marriage – may feel like recovery for half a century.

But to me, her words felt like a revelation. Even authorized.

It’s a woman who outlines my young self that might laugh at the vision of marriage, but today I find it not only appealing, but also inspiring. In a world of endless choices and constant efforts, the idea of ​​a strong, brave partner—and to be a helpful person of such a person—resonates with chords.

I don’t think I’m alone.

So many women are exhausted by “going all out.” The desire for lasting, firm partnerships, and the desire for divine marriage are deeper than many modern women acknowledge.

God’s Vision for Marriage – a Christian husband, wife as assistant – these are not words I heard when I grew up. Growing up in the secular holy lands of San Francisco, few people have heard of God, even less in the context of marriage. When I grew up, I thought marriage was about equality. A man and a woman should be partners and share equally in the creation and support of the family. I think Christian concepts of marriage are outdated and sexist – not to mention dissonance with the needs of modern families.

I always imagine myself in a marriage that reflects this method and seek partners who believe in becoming “equal” like me.

It’s very simple to my young self. Traditional marriage is not good; modern marriage is very good. Seeking guidance from the Bible – not to mention God – on how to connect with my future spouse.

In this case, “Bible” marriage is a direct opposition to the modern era. Even direct attack.

So why did I hear Erika Kirk on Monday morning and start crying?

Because she told the truth about what I believe so many men and men feel now. There is something very powerful about the way the Bible (or Torah, a Jewish woman, called marriage).

Further deeper, I went to the Pentateuch. In service, Erika talks about the people who opened the Bible for the first time in a decade last week. I am one of them. After watching a few hours of speech last weekend, I concluded that it is totally unacceptable that I have not read the Bible at home since my bat ceremony.

So I went to buy two.

It is worth exploring the Bible’s view on marriage. In the story of Adam and Eve, it has long appeared: “God said, ‘It is not good to be alone; I will make him the assistant corresponding to him.” Go further: “A man will leave his father, mother, hold on to his wife, and they will become a flesh.”

That term “assistant” requires a lot of calories. Many people would say that this is a woman, not to become her husband’s “assistant”, she should be equal.

However, it is not that simple.

As Erika says, the wife’s role is not the subject of surrender, but the source of strength and partnership. Many rabbi analyzed the Hebrew “assistant” (“ezer”) that the same word is used to describe God in Psalm. For them, the “assistant” means “sacred” support.

“Your wife is not your servant,” she said. “Your wife is not your employee. Your wife is not your slave. She is your assistant. You are not a competitor. You are for the glory of God’s flesh.”

In a society where we are everyday (and sometimes sometimes even about “women”, there is a profound foundation for this perception of women, manhood and marriage and clarification. Men and women are one flesh. Women are divine assistants. People as protectors and providers.

As a physical body, their achievements as a team are more accomplished than they do on their own.

I grew up in a culture immersed in feminism. Encourage women to pursue careers, change the world and never rely on men. Feminism assured women’s freedom. However, what many people find is loneliness.

Generation Z is expected to be the most unmarried and childless generation in American history. Charlie Kirk is actively opposed to this. He believes that marriage may be an antidote to isolation, mental illness and mental drift. As he found in the Bible, Charlie believes that man should not be alone. That person can benefit from the divine assistant. He has that in Erika. As she explained during her service on Sunday, Charlie wrote a love note every Saturday and said, “Can I better serve you as a husband?”

What a beautiful and profound ceremony – words of gratitude and dedication to the spouse.

As my dad likes to say, “No one feels too much appreciated.”

In some secular circles, the word like Dedication and Slavery A word considered four letters. But today I don’t believe they are too bad. Do they actually go against feminism? After all, Erica is not a wall flower. She is educated, entrepreneurial, a podcaster and political influencer – now she enters the role of CEO of a national organization.

She and her husband are arguing about marriage because the two are committed to each other.

To me, it’s beautiful and worth craving. This vision doesn’t stop professional success – it enhances it.

Erika and Charlie Kirk are stronger together, and they believe they are not good to be alone.

We all need help- Helper – Holy and mortal.