Four words that can save marriage

Sticks and stones can hurt – but the wrong words can blow up your marriage and you will spit out “You overreact.”

Good news? There is a four-word phrase that can stop fighting before the fight begins, or stop you from snapping up the sweet guy.

According to writer Rachel Bowie, the lifeguard who can stop your love life is as follows: “Always assume good intentions.”

“When your spouse drives your madness, the reason why this phrase works is a little obvious,” Bowie wrote in a Purewow article.

“Assuming good intentions act reminds us that in fact, we are together in difficult situations, allowing us to reimagine a moment of chaos and remind me to pause, recover and put it in my spouse’s shoes.”

She advised to think: “Well, maybe there’s more story here before I open the lid? Maybe it’s a hard afternoon. Maybe the baby starts crying into a troublesome game. Maybe my husband deserves a little grace.”

Bowie admits she tested it in real life and that it works.

“It’s not about avoiding conflict or conversation around harder topics (and it’s annoying that our home is a mess and I stepped on two Yahtzee Dices).

“It’s more about making room for productive and thoughtful dialogue, reducing conflict and developing together.

Even a two-way street. She added: “Spoiler: It helps him not be mad at me.”

“Like I forgot to book a camp for a day and found it sold out. He wasn’t frightened, he put himself in my shoes. Life has been busy, and this detail has fallen into a crack. We unified the team.

Although this sentence can help avoid conflict, other phrases can cause conflict.

As the Post previously reported, psychologist and author Jeffrey Bernstein warned that certain phrases are “toxic” to relationships.

“When we first met, and during the embryonic stage of a loving relationship, we tend to do it with our best behavior,” he wrote for psychology.

“However, over time, we often let our guard down and let ourselves respond to our partner in a way that is not good.”

Repeated offender? “You’re overreacting,” “It’s no big deal,” “You’re too sensitive.”

Even if you try to calm things down, Bernstein says that this response “can feel disdainful and lead to your partner feeling judged.” Keeping it, your relationship may be “doomed to fail.”

The most important thing is: skip the dismissive Zingers, abandon the scorers, and avoid silent treatment.

Amid the heat of the debate, four small words “always assume good will” – may save you sanity…and marriage.