Three toxic phrases you should never say to your partner

Sticks and bones may break my bones, but words can destroy the romantic bond.

Psychologist and author Jeffrey Bernstein revealed three “toxic phrases” that people should never say to their partners if they want to maintain a good relationship.

“When we first met, and during the embryonic stage of a loving relationship, we tend to behave with the best of our behavior,” Mind Doc said while writing for psychology today. “However, over time, we often let our guard down and let ourselves respond to our partner in a way that is not good.”

If these phrases become habitual, a person’s relationship may be “doomed to fail.” He said.

According to Bernstein, these three verbal twists are “you’re overreacting,” “no big deal,” and “you’re too sensitive.”

“Even if you try to calm things down, this reaction can feel disdainful and lead to your partner feeling judged,” said the psychologist.

Dr. Bernstein, who is also a counselor, citing an example of a stupid phrase killing a relationship.

He explained: “A few years ago, Lisa was struggling with her marriage with Aaron because she struggled with Aaron.” She said, ‘Earlier, Aaron would tell me he was crazy about me, but in the past few years, everything he did was crazy about when I tried to talk to him about important things in our relationship. ”

A few months later, their relationship ended.

Another way to determine which endangers a person’s relationship? “Keep the score,” Bernstein said, defining this behavior as something like “who ends up apologizing, initiating an intimate relationship or answering around the house.”

This reportedly “bred resentment and power struggles.”

Bernstein also warned couples not to “walls” or refuse to communicate.

“Stone walls do not bode well for the future of any relationship, given the sign of any healthy relationship is the ability to have calm, constructive conversations,” he warned.