Strap-on dildos for vaginismus

Hi everyone! I’m a woman in a relationship with a woman who has vaginismus. We want to have strap-on sex, and while we’ve tried a few strap-on dildos, they’ve all been too uncomfortable because they’re stiff and hard to bend (we even tried a relatively bendable dual-density dildo). She’s used penises in the past, though, and they were very soft and hard to bend (my term for this being very scientific). Any recommendations for strap-on dildos that are as soft and flexible as a real penis? I know this obviously won’t be true, but any recommendations would be welcome, thanks 🙂

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